Embodying Spiritual Qualities for All Believers
Summary
### Summary
Today, we explored ten spiritual qualities from 1 Timothy 3, focusing on how these attributes are not just for church leaders but for all believers. We delved into each quality, pairing them with proverbs and reflective questions to help us apply these principles in our daily lives. The qualities include being blameless, faithful to one spouse, temperate, hospitable, able to teach, not given to wine, not violent or quarrelsome, not greedy, ruling one's house well, and not being a novice. Each quality was examined through the lens of Scripture, emphasizing the importance of integrity, self-control, and spiritual maturity.
We discussed how these qualities are essential for fathers, especially on this Father's Day, but also for everyone in the congregation. The message was clear: these attributes are attainable through God's grace and should be aspired to by all believers. We also touched on the concept of "shadows"—past experiences or character traits that might hold us back. The encouragement was to not let these shadows define us but to allow God's transformative power to work in our lives.
### Key Takeaways
1. Blamelessness and Integrity: Being blameless means living a life of integrity where our actions align with our words. It's about being quick to improve areas that could damage our integrity, ensuring that our yes is yes and our no is no. This quality is foundational for building trust and respect in our relationships. [01:06:11]
2. Faithfulness in Marriage: Faithfulness to one spouse is a reflection of Christ's love for the church. It involves sacrificial service and total surrender, aiming to love our spouse as Christ loves the church. This kind of love brings joy and stability to the family and honors God. [01:08:52]
3. Self-Control and Temperance: Self-control is a vital spiritual quality that encompasses being temperate, sober-minded, and of good behavior. It involves ruling our spirit and being slow to anger, which is more valuable than outward power and strength. This quality helps us maintain peace and order in our lives. [01:10:38]
4. Hospitality and Generosity: Hospitality is about being attentive and responsive to the needs of others. It involves opening our homes and hearts, showing genuine interest and care for people. This quality reflects God's love and can have a profound impact on those around us. [01:12:55]
5. Spiritual Maturity and Teaching: Being able to teach is not limited to formal settings but includes everyday interactions where we guide and nurture others. It emphasizes lifelong learning and the importance of imparting wisdom and encouragement to those around us, especially within our families. [01:18:33]
### YouTube Chapters
[0:00] - Welcome
[54:00] - Announcements
[54:51] - Communion and Volunteers
[55:38] - Men's Bible Study
[56:20] - Birthdays and Anniversaries
[57:37] - Kids Program
[01:00:16] - Introduction to Spiritual Qualities
[01:01:58] - Reading 1 Timothy 3
[01:03:00] - Blamelessness
[01:06:53] - Faithfulness in Marriage
[01:09:59] - Self-Control
[01:12:55] - Hospitality
[01:17:35] - Teaching and Discipleship
[01:20:23] - Avoiding Excessive Drinking
[01:23:08] - Non-Violence
[01:27:19] - Avoiding Greed
[01:29:14] - Managing Household Well
[01:33:47] - Spiritual Maturity
[01:37:35] - Overcoming Shadows
[01:41:15] - Closing Prayer and Benediction
Study Guide
### Bible Reading
1. 1 Timothy 3:1-7 (NKJV)
> This is a faithful saying: If a man desires the position of a bishop, he desires a good work. A bishop then must be blameless, the husband of one wife, temperate, sober-minded, of good behavior, hospitable, able to teach; not given to wine, not violent, not greedy for money, but gentle, not quarrelsome, not covetous; one who rules his own house well, having his children in submission with all reverence (for if a man does not know how to rule his own house, how will he take care of the church of God?); not a novice, lest being puffed up with pride he fall into the same condemnation as the devil. Moreover, he must have a good testimony among those who are outside, lest he fall into reproach and the snare of the devil.
2. Proverbs 28:10 (NKJV)
> Whoever causes the upright to go astray in an evil way, he himself will fall into his own pit; but the blameless will inherit good.
3. Proverbs 20:1 (NKJV)
> Wine is a mocker, strong drink is a brawler, and whoever is led astray by it is not wise.
### Observation Questions
1. What are the ten spiritual qualities listed in 1 Timothy 3:1-7 that are expected of a bishop? ([01:03:00])
2. According to Proverbs 28:10, what is the outcome for those who lead the upright astray versus those who are blameless?
3. How does Proverbs 20:1 describe the effects of wine and strong drink?
### Interpretation Questions
1. Why do you think Paul emphasizes the need for a bishop to be "blameless" and how does this quality build trust and respect in relationships? ([01:06:11])
2. How does the concept of faithfulness in marriage reflect Christ's love for the church, and why is this important for all believers, not just church leaders? ([01:08:52])
3. What does it mean to be temperate and sober-minded, and how does self-control contribute to maintaining peace and order in one's life? ([01:10:38])
4. How can practicing hospitality and generosity impact those around us and reflect God's love? ([01:12:55])
### Application Questions
1. Blamelessness and Integrity: Reflect on areas in your life where your actions might not align with your words. What steps can you take this week to improve your integrity? ([01:06:11])
2. Faithfulness in Marriage: If you are married, how can you show sacrificial love to your spouse this week? If you are not married, how can you support and encourage faithfulness in the marriages around you? ([01:08:52])
3. Self-Control and Temperance: Identify a situation where you often lose self-control. What practical steps can you take to exercise more temperance and self-control in that area? ([01:10:38])
4. Hospitality and Generosity: Think of someone in your community who might need support or encouragement. How can you show hospitality to them this week? ([01:12:55])
5. Spiritual Maturity and Teaching: How can you incorporate teaching and guiding others in your daily interactions, especially within your family or close community? ([01:18:33])
6. Overcoming Shadows: Reflect on a past experience or character trait that might be holding you back. How can you allow God's transformative power to work in that area of your life? ([01:37:35])
7. Avoiding Excessive Drinking: If you consume alcohol, consider your habits. Are there any changes you need to make to ensure you are not led astray by it? ([01:22:15])
Devotional
Day 1: Living a Life of Integrity
Living a life of integrity means ensuring that our actions align with our words. It involves being quick to address and improve areas that could damage our integrity, ensuring that our yes is yes and our no is no. This quality is foundational for building trust and respect in our relationships. Integrity is not just about avoiding wrongdoing but actively pursuing righteousness and transparency in all aspects of life. It requires a commitment to honesty, even when it is difficult, and a dedication to living out our values consistently.
In our daily lives, integrity can be seen in how we handle our responsibilities, how we treat others, and how we respond to challenges. It is about being the same person in private as we are in public, and it is a quality that others can see and trust. By striving to live blamelessly, we reflect the character of Christ and build a strong foundation for our relationships and our witness to the world. [01:06:11]
Proverbs 10:9 (ESV): "Whoever walks in integrity walks securely, but he who makes his ways crooked will be found out."
Reflection: Think of a recent situation where you were tempted to compromise your integrity. How can you address this and ensure that your actions align with your words in the future?
Day 2: Faithfulness in Marriage
Faithfulness in marriage is a reflection of Christ's love for the church. It involves sacrificial service and total surrender, aiming to love our spouse as Christ loves the church. This kind of love brings joy and stability to the family and honors God. Faithfulness is not just about physical fidelity but also emotional and spiritual commitment. It means being present, supportive, and nurturing in the relationship, and it requires ongoing effort and intentionality.
In a world where commitment is often undervalued, faithfulness in marriage stands as a powerful testimony to God's design for relationships. It shows the world a picture of God's unwavering love and faithfulness to us. By striving to be faithful in our marriages, we honor God and create a strong, loving environment for our families. [01:08:52]
Ephesians 5:25-28 (ESV): "Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself."
Reflection: Reflect on how you can show sacrificial love to your spouse this week. What specific actions can you take to demonstrate your commitment and faithfulness?
Day 3: Practicing Self-Control
Self-control is a vital spiritual quality that encompasses being temperate, sober-minded, and of good behavior. It involves ruling our spirit and being slow to anger, which is more valuable than outward power and strength. This quality helps us maintain peace and order in our lives. Self-control is about managing our impulses, emotions, and desires in a way that honors God and benefits others. It requires discipline and a reliance on the Holy Spirit to guide our actions and reactions.
In our fast-paced and often chaotic world, self-control can be a stabilizing force. It allows us to respond thoughtfully rather than react impulsively, and it helps us to make wise decisions that align with our values and goals. By practicing self-control, we can create a more peaceful and orderly life, and we can be a positive influence on those around us. [01:10:38]
Proverbs 16:32 (ESV): "Whoever is slow to anger is better than the mighty, and he who rules his spirit than he who takes a city."
Reflection: Identify an area in your life where you struggle with self-control. What steps can you take to practice greater self-discipline and rely on the Holy Spirit for strength?
Day 4: Embracing Hospitality
Hospitality is about being attentive and responsive to the needs of others. It involves opening our homes and hearts, showing genuine interest and care for people. This quality reflects God's love and can have a profound impact on those around us. Hospitality is not just about entertaining guests but about creating a welcoming and inclusive environment where people feel valued and loved. It is about being generous with our time, resources, and attention.
In a world where many people feel isolated and disconnected, hospitality can be a powerful way to build community and show God's love. By being hospitable, we can create opportunities for meaningful connections and demonstrate the love of Christ in practical ways. [01:12:55]
1 Peter 4:9-10 (ESV): "Show hospitality to one another without grumbling. As each has received a gift, use it to serve one another, as good stewards of God's varied grace."
Reflection: Think of someone in your community who might be feeling isolated or lonely. How can you extend hospitality to them this week in a meaningful way?
Day 5: Teaching and Spiritual Maturity
Being able to teach is not limited to formal settings but includes everyday interactions where we guide and nurture others. It emphasizes lifelong learning and the importance of imparting wisdom and encouragement to those around us, especially within our families. Teaching is about sharing what we have learned and helping others to grow in their faith and understanding. It requires humility, patience, and a willingness to invest in the lives of others.
Spiritual maturity is about growing in our relationship with God and becoming more like Christ. It involves a commitment to ongoing learning and personal growth, as well as a desire to help others on their spiritual journey. By being willing to teach and disciple others, we can have a lasting impact on their lives and help to build a strong, vibrant community of believers. [01:18:33]
Colossians 3:16 (ESV): "Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly, teaching and admonishing one another in all wisdom, singing psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, with thankfulness in your hearts to God."
Reflection: Consider someone in your life who could benefit from your guidance and encouragement. How can you intentionally invest in their spiritual growth this week?
Quotes
1. "A spiritual quality, I believe, should be something. If there's a spiritual quality, and I don't see it ever in my life, surely I should be aspiring to it. Surely I should be aspiring to it." [01:01:20] (11 seconds)
2. "Am I loving the wife as Christ loves his church? This is sacrificial service, even unto the point of total surrender at the cross. He laid his own life down so that the church would arise and be Jesus everywhere. It's a powerful question, isn't it? Challenging question." [01:08:52] (29 seconds)
3. "Am I the master of myself that I may be a servant to many? Pondering questions, aren't they? Actually, I didn't. I didn't write them. Confess time. So I didn't write the questions. I didn't write the questions. John Maxwell, a world-renowned leader and speaker and teacher on leadership." [01:11:44] (26 seconds)
4. "Do I exhibit a warm and welcoming spirit? Or I'm just busy in my everyday life to tick off the A's and B's that I need to do through the day. Or do I take a moment? Do I actually factor into my day space for the unexpected, which could be where I have an opportunity to spend just a few moments in conversation with someone and hear their need, hear their concern, assist them if need be to be hospitable." [01:17:35] (32 seconds)
5. "Do I constantly help others to learn and become better disciples? So what does discipleship look like in your household, in your place? Dads, what does discipleship look like? And it's never too late to make adjustments. Never. Never too late to make adjustments." [01:20:23] (24 seconds)
6. "Am I sober? Am I watchful? Am I diligent? Am I diligent so that I do not damage those who watch me? That's the powerful part. And if we're just speaking to the dads today, we would say, dads, you are always being watched. You are always watched. Always watched." [01:22:15] (27 seconds)
7. "Do I have an approachable disposition that brings peace and healing? The authority of the father in the house actually has an ability to set this tone. It's a powerful tone to actually set in your household as well. Do you purposefully de-escalate? Tension or strife? Or do you escalate it or contribute to it?" [01:24:46] (30 seconds)
8. "Do I manage my own family before I try and manage and this one John Maxwell's point using it word for word do I manage my own affairs before I try and manage the church or we might just say do I manage my own family before I endeavor to manage other responsibilities that I might have or hold very very important." [01:31:33] (24 seconds)
9. "Am I seasoned solid example to both insiders and outsiders that means everyone of God and everything in and around us 10 spiritual qualities thank you mr john maxwell i know it's 10 oh that's a bit of weight isn't it 10 is a bit of weight 10's a lot it's all of them and all of them but might i just say which one would i say which one which one spoke to you i would say fathers dads first of all father's day which one spoke to you and which one could you take a step to address to improve yourself in in this week ahead but let us say to all of us collectively because really there's no exclusion in these qualities they apply to all of us which one which one speaks to you which one could you take on for this week" [01:35:38] (68 seconds)
10. "Do not let shadows of character trait shadows of past experiences hang that we would hang on to them that they would discredit us and say well i don't know that i could ever come to a place where i would not just be a novice i don't think i could ever come to a place where i would be able to well i just like a lot of things and greedy i will be and greedy i've always been i'm just picking on a few simple ones i know there's some probably bigger end of town issues that we could tackle but shadows are not your destiny the lord jesus christ is your lord and your savior and your deliverer he's the king of kings he's the lord of lords and anything within the scriptures that he might call us to he also gives us the grace and the capacity the mercy and the love to attain to it there's nothing in scripture that is written that is beyond humanity's attainment god doesn't do that he's not like that he writes the scripture with vision and purpose for humanity and he gives us instruction and encouragement into that journey such as this passage that we've explored today" [01:39:33] (93 seconds)