Costly Grace: Transforming Love and Discipleship

Devotional

Day 1: Loving Christ Above All Else

To follow Jesus means to love Him more than anyone or anything else, even our closest family members. This is not a call to reject or despise our loved ones, but rather to recognize that our deepest loyalty and affection belong to Christ. When we put Jesus first, our other relationships are transformed by His love, and we are empowered to love others more selflessly. The challenge is to examine our hearts and ask whether anything or anyone is taking the place that belongs to God alone. [03:04]

Luke 14:26-27 (ESV)
“If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.”

Reflection: Is there a relationship or commitment in your life that you have placed above your devotion to Christ? What would it look like to truly put Jesus first today?

Day 2: The Cost of Discipleship

Discipleship is not a casual or easy path; it requires forethought, planning, and a willingness to make sacrifices. Jesus calls us to count the cost before following Him, understanding that true discipleship may mean letting go of comfort, reputation, or even relationships. This is not about earning God’s love, but about responding to His call with intentionality and commitment, knowing that following Christ will shape every aspect of our lives. [03:04]

Luke 14:28-33 (ESV)
“For which of you, desiring to build a tower, does not first sit down and count the cost, whether he has enough to complete it? Otherwise, when he has laid a foundation and is not able to finish, all who see it begin to mock him, saying, ‘This man began to build and was not able to finish.’ Or what king, going out to encounter another king in war, will not sit down first and deliberate whether he is able with ten thousand to meet him who comes against him with twenty thousand? And if not, while the other is yet a great way off, he sends a delegation and asks for terms of peace. So therefore, any one of you who does not renounce all that he has cannot be my disciple.”

Reflection: What is one area of your life where following Jesus feels costly right now? How can you prayerfully embrace that cost as part of your discipleship journey?

Day 3: Rejecting Cheap Grace

Cheap grace is the temptation to accept forgiveness without transformation, to claim Christ’s love without allowing it to change us or move us toward others. True grace is costly—it calls us to self-reflection, to seek justice, and to make the world a better place for all. Cheap grace hides behind religious words, but costly grace compels us to act, to love, and to extend belonging, especially to those on the margins. [04:48]

Romans 6:1-2 (ESV)
“What shall we say then? Are we to continue in sin that grace may abound? By no means! How can we who died to sin still live in it?”

Reflection: In what ways have you settled for “cheap grace” in your life? What is one concrete step you can take today to live out the costly grace of Christ?

Day 4: Extending Belonging to the Margins

It is easy to ignore or exclude those who are different or already marginalized, but Christ calls us to do the harder work of bringing them into the fold. True belonging means making space for others, extending love and grace, and actively working to include those who have been left out. This is the heart of the gospel: to love God by loving others, especially those who are most vulnerable or overlooked. [06:44]

Matthew 25:35-36 (ESV)
“For I was hungry and you gave me food, I was thirsty and you gave me drink, I was a stranger and you welcomed me, I was naked and you clothed me, I was sick and you visited me, I was in prison and you came to me.”

Reflection: Who in your community or daily life is on the margins or feels excluded? How can you reach out to them and extend belonging in a tangible way this week?

Day 5: Becoming a Burning Fire of Love

The church is called to be a source of reconciliation and love, transforming hate into compassion and division into unity. When we come together across differences, we become a living witness to the power of Christ’s love—a burning fire that draws others in and overcomes the darkness of our world. This is our shared calling: to be the nucleus of reconciliation, the place where all are welcomed and transformed by God’s grace. [08:41]

2 Corinthians 5:18-19 (ESV)
“All this is from God, who through Christ reconciled us to himself and gave us the ministry of reconciliation; that is, in Christ God was reconciling the world to himself, not counting their trespasses against them, and entrusting to us the message of reconciliation.”

Reflection: What is one practical way you can help your church or community become a “burning fire of love” and a nucleus of reconciliation this week?

Sermon Summary

Today’s reflection centers on the challenging words of Jesus about the cost of discipleship, particularly his call to love him above even our closest family ties. This is not a command to reject or despise our families, but rather an invitation to reorient our deepest loyalties and affections toward Christ. The language of “hate” in the text is better understood as “loving less”—placing Christ at the center, above all else. This radical call is not about diminishing our love for others, but about allowing our love for Christ to shape and deepen the way we love everyone, especially those on the margins.

Drawing from the life and theology of Dietrich Bonhoeffer, we see the dangers of “cheap grace”—a grace that asks nothing of us, that allows us to remain unchanged, and that can be weaponized to exclude or harm others. Cheap grace is forgiveness without transformation, a comfort that costs us nothing and demands nothing of us in return. In contrast, costly grace calls us to self-examination, to real change, and to active participation in God’s work of reconciliation and justice.

This costly grace is both a freedom and a responsibility. Because Christ has already justified us, we are freed from the anxiety of earning God’s love. But this freedom is not a license for complacency; it is a summons to action. We are called to extend belonging, love, and hope to all people, especially those who are marginalized or excluded. This is not the easy path. It is far simpler to ignore those on the margins or to maintain the status quo. But true discipleship means picking up our cross, doing the hard work of inclusion, and building communities where everyone belongs.

The call to costly grace is not just an individual one, but a communal one. It is lived out in ecumenical partnerships, in ministries like Bread and Belonging, and in the ongoing work of building bridges across differences. The church is called to be a burning fire of love, a nucleus of reconciliation, and a source of transformation in a world so often marked by division and hate. This is the hope and the challenge set before us: to be a people who embody costly grace, who love deeply, and who work tirelessly for the belonging of all.

Key Takeaways

1. True discipleship requires reordering our loves, placing Christ above all else—not to diminish our love for family or neighbor, but to let Christ’s love transform and deepen all our relationships. This reorientation is not about exclusion, but about a radical inclusion that flows from the heart of God. [02:19]
2. Cheap grace is a persistent temptation: it offers forgiveness without transformation, comfort without challenge, and can be used to justify exclusion or complacency. Costly grace, by contrast, demands self-reflection, change, and a commitment to justice and reconciliation. [04:48]
3. The freedom we have in Christ is not merely liberation from guilt, but a freedom for others—a call to spend our lives in service, love, and the pursuit of justice. This freedom is inseparable from responsibility; it is the privilege and the burden of those who follow Christ. [06:01]
4. Extending belonging to those on the margins is hard, costly work. It is far easier to ignore or exclude, but the call of Christ is to bring those on the outside into the center, to make space for all, and to embody the radical hospitality of God’s kingdom. [06:44]
5. The work of costly grace is communal and ecumenical. It is lived out in partnerships, shared ministries, and the building of bridges across difference. The church is called to be a burning fire of love and reconciliation, transforming hate into love and division into unity. [08:41]

Youtube Chapters

[00:00] - Welcome
[01:14] - Wrestling with Difficult Texts
[02:19] - What Does Jesus Mean by “Hate”?
[03:04] - The Cost of Discipleship
[03:39] - Bonhoeffer and Cheap Grace
[04:48] - Cheap Grace in Today’s World
[06:01] - The Freedom and Responsibility of a Christian
[06:44] - Extending Belonging to the Margins
[07:20] - Ecumenical Partnerships and Costly Grace
[08:41] - The Church as a Burning Fire of Love

Bible Study Guide

Bible Reading

Luke 14:25-27 (ESV) — > Now great crowds accompanied him, and he turned and said to them, “If anyone comes to me and does not hate his own father and mother and wife and children and brothers and sisters, yes, and even his own life, he cannot be my disciple. Whoever does not bear his own cross and come after me cannot be my disciple.”

Observation Questions

In Luke 14:25-27, what does Jesus say is required to be his disciple? What strong language does he use, and who does he mention specifically?
According to the sermon, how does the word “hate” in this passage actually function? What alternative meaning was suggested? [02:19]
What examples did the sermon give of “cheap grace” in both Bonhoeffer’s time and today? [03:39]
What does the preacher say is easier: extending belonging to those on the margins, or ignoring/excluding them? Why? [06:44]

Interpretation Questions

Why do you think Jesus uses such strong language about “hating” family and even one’s own life? What is he trying to communicate about priorities and loyalties? [02:19]
The sermon describes “cheap grace” as forgiveness without transformation. Why is this kind of grace so tempting, and what are the dangers of it for individuals and communities? [03:39]
The preacher says that the freedom we have in Christ is also a responsibility. How does this change the way we think about our daily lives and choices? [06:01]
The sermon talks about the church being a “burning fire of love” and a “nucleus of reconciliation.” What does this look like in practical terms for a church community? [08:41]

Application Questions

Jesus calls us to “love him above all others.” Is there a relationship or commitment in your life that sometimes takes priority over your relationship with Christ? What would it look like to “love Christ more” in that area? [02:19]
The sermon warns against “cheap grace”—accepting forgiveness without real change. Are there areas in your life where you have settled for comfort instead of transformation? What is one step you could take toward costly grace this week? [03:39]
The preacher says it’s easier to ignore or exclude those on the margins than to do the hard work of inclusion. Who are the “marginalized” in your context (work, school, neighborhood, church)? What is one practical way you could extend belonging to someone this week? [06:44]
The sermon describes the freedom in Christ as a call to serve others, not just a release from guilt. How can you use your freedom this week to serve or advocate for someone else? [06:01]
The preacher mentions ecumenical partnerships and shared ministries like Bread and Belonging. Is there a partnership or bridge you could help build—across differences of background, denomination, or belief? What would be a first step? [07:20]
The church is called to be a “burning fire of love.” What is one way your small group or church could become more of a source of reconciliation and transformation in your community? [08:41]
Think about a time when you felt excluded or on the margins. How did it feel, and what helped you feel included again? How can that experience shape the way you include others now? [06:44]

Sermon Clips

So the word here that gets translated as hate occasionally and especially in the Old Testament can often be translated a little bit better as loveless. Not hate thy father and thy mother, but love thy father and thy mother less. then you love me. And so what this would be saying is to follow him is to love him above all others. And so what does that actually mean for us? What truly is this then the cost of discipleship? What does it mean to love God above all else? [00:02:38]

Cheap grace is one of the core tenets of Christian nationalism today just as much as it was in Germany. Hiding behind the cross as a way to make ourselves feel better as we put down others, especially those who don't look or sound or live like us. [00:04:20]

No chance for self -reflection, no path to be a better person, no goal to make the world a better place for all. Hiding behind the cheap grace of forgiveness for just saying that I love Jesus. [00:04:50]

So I've heard that St. Aidan's has been working through a season of belonging recently. And so I sat down to think about what this cost of discipleship means in terms of belonging so here in this text christ describes the the forethought and the planning required to finish a project well then what does this forethought and planning mean for us in our lives in christ? [00:05:07]

Where because Christ died on the cross for us and our sins, we don't have to worry about trying to justify ourselves before God through what we did or what we did not do. But instead, we have the freedom of a Christian to go out and spend that time and energy instead of following the textbook letter of the law to go out into the world and spread the love of God. [00:05:48]

But instead, we have the freedom of a Christian to go out and spend that time and energy instead of following the textbook letter of the law to go out into the world and spread the love of God. [00:06:01]

To make the world a better place, to extend love and grace and hope through belonging to everyone, everywhere. And as much as this is called a freedom, I think it's more a responsibility. And that, my friends, is the costly grace. [00:06:14]

It's a lot easier to sit back and not work for belonging, malicious or otherwise. It doesn't take much effort to force people to the margins. Thank you. It takes even less to turn a blind eye to those already on the margins. But it certainly takes more effort to bring those on the margins into the fold with all of us and extend that belonging to everyone. [00:06:34]

It's a lot easier to sit back and not work for belonging, malicious or otherwise. It doesn't take much effort to force people to the margins. It takes even less to turn a blind eye to those already on the margins. But it certainly takes more effort to bring those on the margins into the fold with all of us and extend that belonging to everyone. [00:06:34]

In Luke here, we are called to love God more than everyone else. And we are called to do that by showing love and extending belonging to the entire world around us. We are called to pick up and carry the cross of Jesus. to do the hard thing to make the world a better place. And this is that true cost of discipleship. [00:06:57]

We are called to pick up and carry the cross of Jesus. To do the hard thing to make the world a better place. And this is that true cost of discipleship. [00:07:07]

And while in London, Bonhoeffer regularly worked with those in the Anglican church, building ecumenical bridges through his work with the Confessing Church, the church in Germany that he and others started opposed to Nazi rule through which they sought to show love during those dark times. [00:07:44]

And so this call to costly grace, just as true now as it was over 80 years ago relies on ecumenical relationships things like bread and belonging where we come together to show love hope and belonging together to everyone in a ministry that is only possible through ecumenical partnership together as one. [00:08:03]

And so I'll leave you with one last quote one last hope and one last cross to pick up together just as important now in this world today as it was 80 years ago when Bonhoeffer said it in London that a church together must itself be, in the midst of that people, the burning fire of love, the nucleus of reconciliation, the source of the fire in which all hate is smothered, and proud, hateful people are transformed into loving people. [00:08:27]

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