The good life we all long for is not found in perfect, unfractured relationships. It is built on the presence of Christlike character within us, even when others are fallen and faulty. We can be wounded and worship at the same time. Our relational cracks do not disqualify us from a life of fulfillment and joy. This life is available to all who seek it through faith. [48:07]
Finally, all of you, be like-minded, be sympathetic, love one another, be compassionate, and be humble.
1 Peter 3:8 (CSB)
Reflection: Where in your life are you currently tempted to believe that peace and joy are only possible once a certain relational conflict is perfectly resolved? How might you begin to cultivate Christlike character in the midst of that ongoing tension?
A transformed heart is essential for loving others as Christ calls us to. Naturally, we cannot love to this level or extend this kind of grace and forgiveness. We need God to perform a spiritual heart transplant, placing the very heart of Christ within us. This divine work enables us to develop true sympathy, compassion, and brotherly love. It is the foundation for living in unity. [01:00:52]
I will give you a new heart and put a new spirit within you; I will remove your heart of stone and give you a heart of flesh.
Ezekiel 36:26 (CSB)
Reflection: As you consider the attitudes of being like-minded, sympathetic, loving, compassionate, and humble, which one feels most distant from your natural instincts? What is one practical step you can take this week to depend on Christ’s heart within you to express that attitude?
Offense in relationships is inevitable. The critical question is not whether we will be hurt, but who we will choose to be once we have been hurt. Our fallen instinct is toward reciprocity—to return injury for injury and insult for insult. We are called to a higher way, which means resisting the powerful urge to avenge ourselves or to make others feel the pain they have caused us. This self-denial is the path to the good life. [01:05:08]
Do not repay evil for evil or insult for insult. On the contrary, repay evil with blessing, because you were called for this, so that you may inherit a blessing.
1 Peter 3:9 (CSB)
Reflection: When you think of a recent hurt, what would it look like for you to actively resist the urge to "get your lick back" and instead choose not to repay evil for evil?
The call of the gospel goes beyond simply not seeking revenge; it actively commands us to bless our offenders. This means we cannot simply withdraw and remain neutral, withholding our presence as a punishment. We are summoned to the counter-intuitive, faith-filled work of speaking life to those who have tried to kill our spirit. This is not about fairness, but about faithfulness to our calling. [01:07:07]
But I say to you who listen: Love your enemies, do what is good to those who hate you, bless those who curse you, pray for those who mistreat you.
Luke 6:27-28 (CSB)
Reflection: What is one tangible way—perhaps a word of encouragement or a simple act of kindness—you can extend as a blessing to someone who has caused you pain, even if you don't feel like it?
The reason we can endure unfair treatment and bless those who break us is because we are assured that God is watching and listening. No sacrifice, pain, or act of forgiveness goes unnoticed by Him. His eyes are on the righteous and His ears are open to their prayers. This promise allows us to release our need for personal vengeance, trusting that God sees our situation and has a blessing for us on the other side of obedience. [01:17:37]
For the eyes of the Lord are on the righteous and his ears are open to their prayer. But the face of the Lord is against those who do evil.
1 Peter 3:12 (CSB)
Reflection: How does the truth that God sees your pain and is attentively listening to your prayers change your perspective on a current relational struggle? In what way does this truth free you to let go of your right to retaliate?
The bell of a town forms the opening image: a ringing instrument that marks time, announces life’s joys and alarms, and bears the scars of long service. Cracks in the bell change its tone—worn metal deepens the sound and gives the bell character—so wounds in human life reveal depth and widen influence rather than merely diminish worth. Relational fractures come inevitably from betrayal, misunderstanding, unmet expectations, and even from fellow believers; yet the good life—loving life and seeing good days—does not require pristine relationships. Instead, flourishing grows from Christlike character lived out amid broken bonds.
Five concrete attitudes shape that character: like-mindedness, sympathy, brotherly love, compassion, and humility. Like-mindedness centers on shared allegiance to Christ and truth rather than uniform opinions; humility recognizes gifts as entrusted for others’ benefit; sympathy means feeling with others; compassion moves in the gut to respond; and love remains the hinge that holds the list together. Authentic transformation requires more than moral effort: it requires the heart of Christ transplanted into the life so that natural limits on love, forgiveness, and grace give way to supernatural capacity.
When offense arrives, instinctive revenge and withdrawal undermine blessing. The faithful response resists avenging, refuses tit-for-tat retaliation, and instead deliberately blesses the offender. That posture does not naiveté: it includes wisdom about restoration, redefinition, restriction, and, when necessary, release. Restoration reunites a relationship to its former place; redefinition redraws boundaries while keeping spiritual ties; restriction protects one’s formation by limiting access; and release parts ways when reconciliation proves impossible. The pursuit of peace requires active effort—seek it and pursue it—because human community tends toward wounding.
Finally, divine attention frames the ethic: God watches the righteous and hears their prayers, while God’s face opposes wrongdoing. Blessing follows sacrificial love practiced under offense; the record of righteous endurance matters. The promise assures that refusing revenge, blessing the one who hurt, and embodying Christlike charity lead not to loss but to inheritance of blessing, renewed life, and the attentive favor of God.
Because life life and the good life especially isn't built on the absence of relational cracks. It's built on the presence of Christ like character despite them. Yeah. Wait. The good life is not finding the people who treat you right. The good life is treating people right when they've treated you wrong.
[00:49:46]
(31 seconds)
#GoodLifeIsCharacter
It means I have to bless the one that tried to break me. And y'all, he then goes into this quotation of Psalm 34 because he says the person who wants to love life and to see good days has to regulate their tongue and their behavior when they are offended because the good life comes when I learn how to maintain my character in the midst of your offensive need.
[01:08:33]
(30 seconds)
#BlessTheOneWhoBrokeYou
Everywhere there are people, there will be some relational tension and friction, and offense is inevitable. He's not speaking hypothetically. Evil is going to be done. Insults will be spoken. Relationships will fracture. The question is not whether or not you will be offended. The question is who are you going to be once you have been offended?
[01:04:03]
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#OffenseIsInevitable
You mean I gotta bless the person that broke me? I gotta help the person that hurt me. Yeah. I gotta speak life to the person that tried to kill me. Peter, this this this this this ain't fair. And I wanna suggest I wanna suggest that you're right. It ain't fair, but it is faith.
[01:07:29]
(33 seconds)
#FaithWhenUnfair
Church ought to be a place where I can come and even when I can't articulate what I'm trying to say with all the right words, somebody ought to be able to feel me. I don't know all the doctrine and all the I don't have all the i's dotted and the t's crossed. I don't know all the hymns in the hymn book, and I don't know where Genesis is and Revelation. You'd say turn to Revelation. I go to the beginning of my bible. You say go to Genesis. I go to the end. I may not have it all together, but I need a place where I can emote and I can express and I can talk without judgment, without criticism, without somebody telling me I'm crazy, and I've lost my I need somebody to feel me.
[00:57:03]
(45 seconds)
#ChurchShouldFeelSafe
That those fractures didn't silence the bell. They they simply changed the tone of the bell. When the bell ringer would pull the rope to ring the bell, a cracked bell made a deeper sound. It was less polished. It was less pure, but it was the honest effort of the bell to still do its job. You could hear the wound in the voice of the bell.
[00:45:56]
(33 seconds)
#WoundedBellStillRings
But bells are like people. Bells are like bodies. Bells get worn out. After years and years of ringing, the metal would wear down and summer heat would stretch the metal. The cold winter would tighten the metal. Storms would shake the bell and the bell tower and slowly, quietly, fractures would begin to take place.
[00:45:26]
(31 seconds)
#BellsWearAndTear
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