Celebrating Relationships: God's Design for Unity and Renewal
Summary
Today is a celebration of 30 years of marriage for Pastor Javier and Pastor Melinda, but the truths shared reach far beyond marriage alone. God designed us for relationship—whether with a spouse, family, friends, or our church community. From the wisdom of Solomon in Ecclesiastes, “two are better than one,” we see that life is not meant to be lived in isolation. There is a multiplication of blessing, strength, and reward when we walk together with others. God’s design is that we would have people in our lives who can lift us up when we fall, keep us warm in cold seasons, and help us withstand adversity. This is not just about marriage, but about the power of godly relationships in every area of life.
Scripture is filled with examples of how relationships are essential to God’s purposes. Adam needed Eve; Moses needed Aaron and Hur to hold up his arms; Esther needed Mordecai’s wisdom and encouragement; Paul needed Barnabas to stand with him when others doubted. In each case, God’s plan unfolded through the unity and support found in relationship. Even Jesus’ first miracle was at a wedding, turning water into wine—a sign that God cares deeply about our relationships and is present to bring renewal and miracles when things run dry.
Marriage, like all relationships, begins with excitement and hope, but inevitably faces challenges, disappointments, and seasons of dryness. Yet, God’s promise is that the end can be better than the beginning. The miracle at Cana is a picture for us: when we feel empty or depleted, Jesus invites us to fill ourselves with His presence, His Word, and prayer. We are called to be “water pots” filled to the brim, not waiting for others to fill us, but coming to relationships with something to give. As we pour out what God has given us, He transforms it into something better than what we had at first.
No matter the state of your marriage or any relationship—whether it feels dry, broken, or hopeless—Jesus is present to do a miracle. The world is watching to see if we, as believers, will love and serve one another, showing that two truly are better than one. God’s heart is for unity, restoration, and blessing in every relationship, and He invites us to participate in His miraculous work by filling up, pouring out, and trusting Him for the increase.
Key Takeaways
- God’s Design for Relationship Is Multiplicative, Not Additive
God’s intention is not that we simply add people to our lives, but that there is a multiplication of blessing, strength, and reward when we walk together. When we stand with others—whether in marriage, friendship, or community—there is a mysterious increase that cannot be achieved alone. This is why “two are better than one,” and why we must intentionally cultivate godly relationships. [55:15]
- The Presence of God Manifests Powerfully in Unity
While God is always with us, there is a special grace and presence that comes when believers gather in unity. Jesus promised to be in the midst of two or three gathered in His name, and Psalm 133 declares the goodness and pleasantness of unity. Our relationships are not just for our benefit, but are a context where God’s Spirit moves and His purposes are accomplished. [56:30]
- Godly Relationships Require Both Giving and Receiving
Biblical examples like Moses with Aaron and Hur, or Esther with Mordecai, show that we all need people to support us—and we are called to support others. Sometimes we are the ones holding up another’s arms; other times, we need to let others help us rest on the Rock, Jesus. Healthy relationships are marked by mutual encouragement, accountability, and sacrificial love. [01:00:42]
- Miracles in Relationships Begin with Personal Fullness
When the wine ran out at the wedding in Cana, Jesus instructed the servants to fill the water pots to the brim. We are those water pots—called to fill ourselves with God’s Word, prayer, and His presence. We cannot expect others to fill our emptiness; instead, we must come to relationships with something to give, trusting that as we pour out, God will transform and multiply what we offer. [01:08:30]
- Restoration and Renewal Are Always Possible with Jesus
No matter how dry, broken, or hopeless a relationship may seem, Jesus is present to bring restoration. The miracle at Cana is a metaphor for every relationship: what begins to run out can be renewed and made even better by the power of Christ. Our part is to obey His instructions, fill up with His Spirit, and pour out in faith, believing that He can make the end better than the beginning. [01:10:00]
Youtube Chapters
[00:00] - Welcome
[00:45] - Honoring 30 Years of Marriage
[02:30] - The Universal Need for Relationship
[04:10] - Solomon’s Wisdom: Two Are Better Than One
[07:00] - The Multiplication of Reward in Unity
[09:15] - God’s Design: Not Good to Be Alone
[11:30] - The Power of Gathering in Jesus’ Name
[14:00] - The Blessing in the Cluster
[16:20] - Biblical Examples of Supportive Relationships
[20:00] - Marriage: From Excitement to Challenge
[23:00] - The Miracle at Cana: Jesus in Our Relationships
[28:00] - Filling Up and Pouring Out
[32:00] - Hope for Broken Relationships
[36:00] - Prayer for Restoration and Unity
[38:00] - Vow Renewal and Family Reflections
Study Guide
Bible Study Discussion Guide: "Two Are Better Than One"
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### Bible Reading
1. Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
“Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their labor. For if they fall, one will lift up his companion. But woe to him who is alone when he falls, for he has no one to help him up. Again, if two lie down together, they will keep warm; but how can one be warm alone? Though one may be overpowered by another, two can withstand him. And a threefold cord is not quickly broken.”
2. John 2:1-11
(The story of Jesus turning water into wine at the wedding in Cana.)
3. Genesis 2:18
“The Lord God said, ‘It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him.’”
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### Observation Questions
1. According to Ecclesiastes 4:9-12, what are some specific benefits of having another person alongside you in life?
2. In the story of the wedding at Cana (John 2:1-11), what did Jesus ask the servants to do before the miracle happened?
3. What does Genesis 2:18 reveal about God’s original design for human relationships?
4. The sermon mentioned several biblical examples of supportive relationships (like Moses with Aaron and Hur, Esther with Mordecai, Paul with Barnabas). What role did these relationships play in God’s plans? [01:00:42]
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### Interpretation Questions
1. Why do you think Solomon emphasizes that “two are better than one” instead of just saying “it’s good to have friends”? What is the deeper meaning behind this? [55:15]
2. In the miracle at Cana, why do you think Jesus chose to perform his first miracle at a wedding, and what does this say about God’s view of relationships? [01:06:57]
3. The sermon says that “miracles in relationships begin with personal fullness.” What does it mean to be a “water pot filled to the brim” in your relationships? [01:08:30]
4. How does the presence of God show up differently when believers are united together, according to Matthew 18:20 and Psalm 133? [56:30]
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### Application Questions
1. Think about a relationship in your life (marriage, friendship, family, or church) that feels dry or strained. What would it look like for you to “fill your water pot to the brim” with God’s presence, Word, and prayer before expecting change in that relationship? [01:08:30]
2. The sermon talked about not waiting for others to fill us up, but coming to relationships with something to give. What is one practical way you can pour out encouragement, support, or love to someone this week? [01:08:30]
3. Are there any relationships in your life where you need to let someone “hold up your arms” like Aaron and Hur did for Moses? What keeps you from asking for help, and how can you take a step toward vulnerability? [01:00:42]
4. The message said that “the end can be better than the beginning” in relationships. Is there a relationship where you’ve lost hope for improvement? What would it look like to trust Jesus for a miracle in that area? [01:10:00]
5. The world is watching how believers love and serve one another. Is there a specific way you can show unity or restoration in a relationship that might be a witness to others? [01:10:00]
6. The sermon mentioned the importance of both giving and receiving in relationships. Are you more comfortable giving or receiving support? What is one step you can take to grow in the area that’s harder for you? [01:00:42]
7. Reflect on the biblical examples (Moses, Esther, Paul, Barnabas). Who is someone in your life that you can intentionally support or encourage this week, and how will you do it? [01:00:42]
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Closing Prayer Suggestion:
Invite the group to pray for any relationships that need restoration, for the courage to fill up with God’s presence, and for unity in your church and families.
Devotional
Day 1: Two Are Better Than One—The Power of Godly Relationships
God designed us for community, not isolation, and there is a supernatural multiplication that happens when we stand together in unity—whether in marriage, friendship, or church family. When we support one another, we experience a multiplied reward, help in times of need, and strength to withstand challenges. The presence of God is especially powerful when we gather in His name, and our relationships become a source of blessing, encouragement, and resilience. Let us be intentional about building and nurturing these godly connections, knowing that we are stronger and more fruitful together than we could ever be alone. [55:15]
Ecclesiastes 4:9-12 (ESV)
"Two are better than one, because they have a good reward for their toil. For if they fall, one will lift up his fellow. But woe to him who is alone when he falls and has not another to lift him up! Again, if two lie together, they keep warm, but how can one keep warm alone? And though a man might prevail against one who is alone, two will withstand him—a threefold cord is not quickly broken."
Reflection: Who is someone in your life you can intentionally encourage or support this week, and how can you reach out to strengthen that relationship today?
Day 2: God’s Presence in Our Togetherness
There is a special grace and presence of the Lord when we gather with others in His name. While God is always with us, He promises a unique blessing when we come together in unity—whether as a family, friends, or church community. This unity not only brings joy and pleasantness but also invites the Holy Spirit to move powerfully among us. Our togetherness is a testimony to the world of God’s love and the beauty of His kingdom, and it is in these relationships that we often experience God’s greatest blessings and miracles. [55:15]
Matthew 18:20 (ESV)
"For where two or three are gathered in my name, there am I among them."
Reflection: How can you make space this week to gather with others in Jesus’ name—whether in prayer, worship, or fellowship—and invite His presence into your relationships?
Day 3: Miracles in Relationships—When the Wine Runs Out
Every relationship, no matter how strong, faces seasons where the “wine” runs out—times of dryness, disappointment, or difficulty. Yet, just as Jesus performed His first miracle at a wedding in Cana, He is able to bring new life, joy, and abundance into our relationships when we invite Him in. The key is to fill ourselves with His presence, His Word, and prayer, so that we have something to pour out to others. As we serve and love one another, Jesus transforms what seems ordinary or empty into something extraordinary, making the end even better than the beginning. [01:06:57]
John 2:1-11 (ESV)
"On the third day there was a wedding at Cana in Galilee, and the mother of Jesus was there. Jesus also was invited to the wedding with his disciples. When the wine ran out, the mother of Jesus said to him, 'They have no wine.' And Jesus said to her, 'Woman, what does this have to do with me? My hour has not yet come.' His mother said to the servants, 'Do whatever he tells you.' Now there were six stone water jars there for the Jewish rites of purification, each holding twenty or thirty gallons. Jesus said to the servants, 'Fill the jars with water.' And they filled them up to the brim. And he said to them, 'Now draw some out and take it to the master of the feast.' So they took it. When the master of the feast tasted the water now become wine, and did not know where it came from (though the servants who had drawn the water knew), the master of the feast called the bridegroom and said to him, 'Everyone serves the good wine first, and when people have drunk freely, then the poor wine. But you have kept the good wine until now.' This, the first of his signs, Jesus did at Cana in Galilee, and manifested his glory. And his disciples believed in him."
Reflection: In what area of your relationships do you feel “the wine has run out,” and how can you invite Jesus to bring a miracle and newness there today?
Day 4: Serving and Lifting Each Other Up
God calls us not only to receive from others but also to serve and lift up those around us, especially in times of weakness or weariness. Just as Aaron and Hur supported Moses’ arms so that Israel could prevail, we are called to come alongside others, offering practical help, prayer, and encouragement. Sometimes, this means helping someone rest in Jesus, carrying their burdens, or simply being present. Our willingness to serve and support one another can be the very means God uses to bring victory, healing, and breakthrough in our lives and the lives of those we love. [01:00:42]
Exodus 17:10-13 (ESV)
"So Joshua did as Moses told him, and fought with Amalek, while Moses, Aaron, and Hur went up to the top of the hill. Whenever Moses held up his hand, Israel prevailed, and whenever he lowered his hand, Amalek prevailed. But Moses’ hands grew weary, so they took a stone and put it under him, and he sat on it, while Aaron and Hur held up his hands, one on one side, and the other on the other side. So his hands were steady until the going down of the sun. And Joshua overwhelmed Amalek and his people with the sword."
Reflection: Who in your life is facing a battle or weariness, and what is one specific way you can “hold up their arms” this week?
Day 5: The End Is Better Than the Beginning
Though the early days of any relationship or marriage are often filled with excitement and hope, God’s desire is that our relationships grow deeper, stronger, and more beautiful with time. Even when we face disappointments, challenges, or seasons of dryness, God promises that the end can be better than the beginning if we trust Him, fill ourselves with His presence, and continue to pour out love and grace to one another. Let us believe for miracles, restoration, and greater joy in our relationships, knowing that with God, the best is yet to come. [01:06:57]
Ecclesiastes 7:8 (ESV)
"Better is the end of a thing than its beginning, and the patient in spirit is better than the proud in spirit."
Reflection: What is one area of a key relationship where you need to trust God for a better ending than the beginning, and what step can you take today to move toward that hope?
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