Our minds are constantly bombarded by messages and images that seek to shape us. Just as ancient Israel was influenced by surrounding nations and the crowds were swayed by religious leaders, we too are susceptible to external forces. It's crucial to be aware of what we are paying attention to, as these influences can subtly alter our perspectives and actions. We are designed to imitate, and this can be hijacked by forces that don't align with truth. [05:35]
1 John 4:1
Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God, for many false prophets have gone out into the world. (ESV)
Reflection: When you consider the constant stream of information and entertainment you consume, what are two specific influences that you suspect might be subtly shaping your thoughts or desires in ways that don't align with your faith?
Gaius is presented as a model of faithful leadership, demonstrating how to use one's influence for good. He joyfully welcomed and supported traveling missionaries, providing them with a platform and resources. This radical hospitality and generosity, rooted in his faith, allowed him to become a co-worker in spreading the gospel. His life exemplifies how embracing truth and love can lead to a flourishing church and a positive impact on others. [18:13]
3 John 1:5-6
Beloved, it is a faithful thing you do in all your efforts to care for the brothers, especially for strangers. They have testified to your love before the church. You will do well to send them on their journey in a manner worthy of God. (ESV)
Reflection: In what specific ways can you extend radical hospitality and generosity to those who are serving in ministry or are new to your community, mirroring Gaius's example?
Diotrephes serves as a stark warning against the dangers of pride and self-serving ambition within the church. His desire to be first led him to reject apostolic authority, slander leaders, and refuse hospitality to those spreading the gospel. This behavior created division and harmed the community. It highlights how unchecked ambition can lead to arrogance, accusation, and the exclusion of those who seek to honor Christ. [26:35]
3 John 1:9-10
I have written something to the church, but Diotrephes, who loves to be first, does not welcome us. So if I come, I will bring up what he is doing, by talking wicked nonsense against us. And not content with that, he refuses to welcome the brothers, and also stops those who want to and puts them out of the church. (ESV)
Reflection: Reflect on a time when you observed or experienced the negative impact of someone prioritizing their own agenda over the well-being of a group or community; what did you learn from that situation about the destructive nature of unchecked ambition?
Demetrius is held up as an example of someone whose life is characterized by integrity and consistency. He has a good testimony from everyone because he lives out the truth he professes, both publicly and privately. His life is a testament to the gospel, demonstrating that genuine faith is displayed through consistent character and actions. Such a life becomes a positive influence, testifying to the transformative power of God. [29:23]
3 John 1:11-12
Beloved, do not imitate evil but imitate good. Whoever does good is from God; whoever does evil has not seen God. Demetrius has received a good testimony from everyone, and from the truth itself. And we also add our testimony, and you know that our testimony is true. (ESV)
Reflection: Considering Demetrius's consistent lifestyle, what is one area of your daily or weekly rhythm where you could intentionally live out your faith with greater integrity and consistency?
John, the author of this letter, exemplifies influence through personal connection and presence. He longs to see Gaius face-to-face to share more deeply, rather than relying solely on written communication. This emphasis on personal interaction and relational connection is where true influence is best formed. John's closing words of peace also remind us of the profound peace available through Christ, even amidst challenges. [33:59]
3 John 1:13-14
I had much to write to you, but I am unwilling to write it with pen and ink. I hope to see you soon, and we will talk face to face. Peace be to you. Our friends send you their greetings. And you send your greetings to the friends, each by name. (ESV)
Reflection: In what specific way can you prioritize face-to-face connection with someone this week to share encouragement, offer support, or simply deepen your relationship, reflecting John's relational approach to influence?
Third-person summary:
Third John reframes pastoral urgency around the power of influence. The epistle unfolds through four vivid characters whose choices illustrate how attention, affection, and authority shape congregational life. Gaius is commended as a beloved leader whose visible faith, radical hospitality, and generous support of itinerant workers embody gospel sentness: he opens doors, provides for missionaries, and thereby partners in the advance of Christ’s name. Diotrephes poses the antithesis—ambitious, authoritarian, and exclusionary—his pride leads to slander, rejection of apostolic authority, and the expulsion of those who would serve the gospel. Demetrius models steady discipleship: a consistent, public and private integrity that corroborates the truth he proclaims and earns the trust of the community. John himself models relational influence, preferring face-to-face presence, patient pastoral conversation, and a benediction of peace that steadies leaders amid conflict.
The cultural frame is stark and modern: attention economies, mirror-neuron imitation, dopamine-driven anticipations, and screen-based attachments make communities especially vulnerable to counterfeit authorities. The book’s pastoral counsel is both diagnostic and corrective—recognize who shapes affections, choose to imitate what is rooted in God, refuse the slippery slope of ambition that masquerades as leadership, and invest in interpersonal discipleship rather than platform-driven influence. Practical direction emerges in pointed pastoral questions about rhythms, relationships, and responsibility: identify trustworthy exemplars (a Gaius), cultivate consistent character like Demetrius, resist Diotrephian tendencies either in oneself or in systems, and pursue peace that arises from union with Christ. The summons is sober and hopeful: influences will form someone—choose well, lead humbly, and be willing to be both influenced and to influence in ways that make Christ’s name known.
They've been so transformed by that truth that they now are going from town to town to make Jesus' name famous. They've been so influenced by the gospel that they are willing to go and put themselves out there, risk rejection, risk abandonment, risk being mistreated for the sake of the name. Have you been influenced by Jesus to that level? Has he changed everything about your story? It did for these men.
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#RadicalForJesus
The early church is influenced by false teachers and under cultural pressure to stay true. That's why John is writing these letters. And today, maybe more than ever, our influence is under assault. We are bombarded by influencers. Everywhere we look, how many of us I mean, I'm literally in front of a screen right now, and there is an assault all the time to put things in front of us that would shape us and turn us into something maybe we don't want to become.
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#InfluenceUnderAssault
Church, we have to be alert to the evil influences. We have to be alert to this kind of drift. We don't drift towards holiness or heresy. We imitate it. And so we need to be aware of the people in our life who maybe are like this. We need to be aware of the places in our life where this is prevalent, and we need to repent and return to Jesus because these influences are out there.
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#GuardAgainstDrift
Later on, Israel again comes under the influence of other nations as they see other foreign nations have kings and kingdoms, and they go to God and they say, we want a king like them. They're they're influenced by looking at those around them. Even when we get to the life ministry and eventual death of Jesus, we see the crowds that on one day so quickly follow Jesus and proclaim him and are magnifying him, come under the influence of the religious leaders of the day. And in less than a week, they turn on him and cry out, crucify him, because they're influenced by those around them.
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#DontFollowTheCrowd
That you start to form connections with these influencers. And this isn't all bad. Some of this is how God has designed us to be. We are biologically built to imitate things that we see. We have these things in our brain called mirror neurons that when we see something repeated long enough, we start to think that it's good, right, and true, and we follow what we see. It is how God has made us to be. We are built to imitate what we see. It's part of God's design.
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#WiredToImitate
Here's what I think these men are doing is they're going town to town and sold out for the truth of the gospel. They are unwilling to compromise. They don't want a slippery slope to overtake them. And so they're not going to accept funds from those who haven't bought in to the mission. And so John is telling Gaius here, lead well, support them generously. Because when you do, he says, you're when you support people like these, you become fellow workers. You get to join with them in their work.
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#SupportFaithfulWorkers
We talked last week about the fact that anywhere you say yes to Jesus is reason to celebrate. And I just wanna remind you of that. Where did you say yes to Jesus this last week? And don't just skim over that. Rejoice in that. Celebrate that. John Gaius is using his influence to invite others in. These brothers are traveling missionaries and preachers. They show up at his church, and they give a good report, which leads John to say that he has no greater joy than to hear that his children are walking in the church.
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#CelebrateEveryYes
third John, and this is not a new thing in John or in really in God's people that we need to be on guard for the influences that are out there. If we go all the way back to the garden, our first parents come under the influence of the deceiver, and they listen to him and not God. If you fast forward to Israel, they are influenced by the spies who go and look at the promised land and come back and give a false report, and they choose not to go in to the promised land. There's always an assault on us and what we are paying attention to.
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#WatchTheInfluences
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