Built to Belong - Family Matters by Pastor James Hooper

we have to learn to break these toxic family cycles. We have to be create emotional safety at our home. It has to be a safe place at our home because that's how we we keep these relationships because we're building building people in our homes. And so we have to create this safe place and prioritize intentional conversations. You have to prioritize them. You've got to have these conversations with one another and with your children. You've got to have these conversations and prioritize them. Make sure they understand this significant and they'll remember it. So, we've talked about how we're building our relationships with parent child, our family relationships with one another, but you remember this, this is one of the last things I want you to remember is your family doesn't need a perfect version of you, just a present one. They just need you to be present. [00:39:30] (71 seconds)  #IntentionalFamilyTime

Well, I had some, I got to play sports but we didn't have that many in my school. What it is saying is recognize their temperament and giftings and raise them accordingly. So you recognize each child has different temperament, has different, they get their own, they have their own personality. Chris and Clarissa can tell you this, that every one of the child's none of them are exactly the same. None of them are exactly the same. That is terrifying sometimes because you've got to figure out how to get through to that child because treating each child exactly the same doesn't work for all of them. [00:18:40] (44 seconds)  #EveryChildIsDifferent

But this thing would come to my mind saying, my life is a gift from God and he placed me here for a purpose. I might not be enjoying it to the fullest right now, but he put me here for a purpose and that has been something he has taught me throughout my life. This helps me in my relationship with people because he put them in my life for a reason. He put you in my life for a reason. And so, I must cherish that. I must figure I must try to find out why he did that not just to pastor but there are reasons why each one of you are in my life because there are things that we can glean from each other that we couldn't get any other way. [00:29:25] (53 seconds)  #LifeIsAGift

children need presence more than perfection And parents are called to lead and not control. Honor flows both directions. We'll have to learn to give honor and to receive honor. One of my biggest pet peeves is when I give somebody a compliment and they deflect it saying, oh, it wasn't me. It wasn't me. Oh, especially if they said it was all God. I wanna say it wasn't that good. If it was God, it'd be a lot better, but you did a good job. So receive it. My dad taught me, he said listen, the problem with the way, the reason that Lucifer fell was because he was receiving all this glory that was as as he was he received all the glory being the worshiper, he received it and his job was to pass it on to God. [00:30:29] (61 seconds)  #PresenceNotPerfection

consulted us before she did it. Now, there's not a lot of parents that do that anymore, but because we are adult children and we're all leaders in our own right, so she respected that. But there's some of us that we have to learn to honor because we have to it's one of those things that God it's what like I says, it's the first commandment that comes along with a promise. Okay? It doesn't just say don't because I said so. Now my mama used to do that a lot. She said, don't. And I say, because I said so. [00:11:11] (32 seconds)  #HonorYourParents

You are so so good to me because you and I know me. You know I'm not that I don't deserve that, but you did that through me. I thank you. So we must honor both directions and grace grace can heal generational dysfunction. Grace, giving people grace, understanding where they come from. A lot of times when we are reaction we react to people and this is something that I've learned to practice, When things happen to me, well, like we're driving somewhere and I love to talk to people in their cars when they're driving around to me. I love to correct them. [00:32:23] (46 seconds)  #GraceHealsGenerations

To honor is to manifest an attitude of love, of respect, of disposition of one's heart which in the context of the child parent relationship yields the fruit of obedience. So honoring, we are to honor now see we are all children, we have most most of y'all have kids, but we were all kids at one point. And then we have a heavenly father that we have to honor. Sometimes those of us, those that had, I can't say us, those that had a poor example of a father, someone that had a father that was not what you would say worthy of honor. [00:06:01] (42 seconds)  #HonorShowsLove

of a father, someone that had a father that was not what you would say worthy of honor. The problem is God did not say honor your father and mother if they are worth, if they're worthy of it. You are to respect and honor them as that authority that's been placed over you. That's not easily done. Sometimes we have relationships with parents that are antagonistic or they're the parent we've got to remember a lot of times, let me put this caveat, parents are people that are going through issues themselves, Okay? [00:06:35] (43 seconds)  #HonorEvenWhenHard