Building Strong Families on a Solid Foundation
Summary
Today begins a new journey into the heart of what truly matters: our families. No matter your family’s shape—married, single, divorced, with or without children, grandparent, or single adult—everyone is part of a family unit, and how we build and nurture those relationships is crucial. Drawing from Jesus’ parable in Matthew 7, the focus is on the importance of building our homes, not just physically but spiritually and relationally, on a solid foundation. The storms of life—cultural pressures, spiritual attacks, and personal challenges—will come to every household, but the difference between standing firm and collapsing lies in the building blocks we choose.
It’s easy to believe that our past or our upbringing determines our future, but the truth of the gospel is that Jesus can make all things new. Our present choices, the materials we use to build our families today, matter just as much as our history. Perfection is not the goal; growth is. No family, marriage, or church is flawless, but with intentional effort, we can make what we have as strong as possible. This requires work—strong families don’t happen by accident. The world may be shifting away from traditional values, but God’s original design for family remains the best blueprint.
Four essential building blocks were highlighted. First, support each other. This means having each other’s backs, showing up in practical and emotional ways, and loving unconditionally—even when we disagree. Second, spend time together. Memories and security are built not with money, but with presence—through shared meals, simple games, and showing up for important moments. Third, appreciate each other. Expressing gratitude, looking for the gold in one another, and giving sincere compliments create an atmosphere where everyone feels valued. Finally, spiritual commitment is foundational: “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” Building a spiritual legacy is more important than leaving wealth or status.
No matter where you are or what your family looks like, there is always hope for new beginnings. The challenge is to make what you have right now the best it can be, trusting God for wisdom, grace, and strength to build a family that stands strong through every storm.
Key Takeaways
- The Foundation Determines the Future
What you build your family on—your values, your faith, your priorities—will determine whether your home stands or falls when storms come. The same external pressures can yield very different outcomes depending on the foundation. It’s not just about avoiding trouble, but about being prepared to withstand it by rooting your family in Christ and His teachings. [03:37]
- Your Past Does Not Dictate Your Destiny
While family of origin, personality, and past experiences shape us, they do not have the final say. The gospel offers the power to break cycles, heal wounds, and create new legacies. Embracing the present and making intentional choices today can transform your family’s future, regardless of what came before. [06:18]
- Support and Commitment Are Non-Negotiable
Strong families are marked by unwavering support and commitment. This means loving each other through disagreements, showing up in times of need, and making family the top priority above work, hobbies, or even church activities. Support is not passive; it’s an active, daily choice to be present and engaged. [15:19]
- Time Together Is the Currency of Connection
Quality time is the lifeblood of a healthy family. It’s not about grand gestures or expensive outings, but about consistent, meaningful presence—sharing meals, playing games, attending events, and simply being together. These moments build trust, security, and lifelong memories that outlast any material gift. [26:26]
- Spiritual Legacy Outweighs Material Inheritance
The greatest gift you can give your family is a spiritual legacy. Committing together to serve the Lord, modeling faith, prayer, and love at home, and prioritizing God’s values over the world’s will have eternal impact. Wealth and status fade, but a family rooted in Christ endures and influences generations. [35:16]
Youtube Chapters
[00:00] - Welcome
[01:10] - Introduction to Family Matters Series
[03:37] - The Parable of the Two Builders
[05:05] - Why Some Families Stand and Others Fall
[06:18] - The Power of the Present Over the Past
[08:41] - The Myth of the Perfect Family
[09:59] - Building Strong Families Takes Work
[11:43] - The Attack on the Family
[13:40] - The True Value of Family
[15:19] - Building Block 1: Support Each Other
[22:24] - Building Block 2: Spend Time Together
[26:26] - The Power of Showing Up
[30:38] - Building Block 3: Appreciate Each Other
[34:08] - Building Block 4: Serve the Lord Together
[37:54] - No Condemnation, Only Encouragement
[39:09] - Make the Most of What You Have
[40:03] - Invitation to Commit and Pray
Study Guide
Bible Study Discussion Guide: Building Strong Families
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### Bible Reading
- Matthew 7:24-27
“Anyone who listens to my teaching and follows it is wise, like a person who builds a house on solid rock. Though the rain comes in torrents and the floodwaters rise and the winds beat against that house, it won’t collapse because it is built on bedrock. But anyone who hears my teaching and doesn’t obey it is foolish, like a person who builds a house on sand. When the rains and floods come and the winds beat against that house, it will collapse with a mighty crash.”
- 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“Love is patient and kind. Love is not jealous or boastful or proud or rude. It does not demand its own way. It is not irritable, and it keeps no record of being wronged. It does not rejoice about injustice but rejoices whenever the truth wins out. Love never gives up, never loses faith, is always hopeful, and endures through every circumstance.”
- Joshua 24:15
“But as for me and my family, we will serve the Lord.”
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### Observation Questions
1. In the parable Jesus tells in Matthew 7, what is the main difference between the two builders and the outcome of their houses?
([03:37])
2. According to 1 Corinthians 13:4-7, what are some specific qualities of love that should be present in our families?
([15:19])
3. What does Joshua declare about his household in Joshua 24:15, and why is this significant for families today?
([34:08])
4. The sermon mentions that “perfection is not the goal; growth is.” What does this mean in the context of building a family?
([08:41])
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### Interpretation Questions
1. Why do you think Jesus emphasizes the foundation of the house rather than the appearance or size in Matthew 7? How does this relate to the way we build our families?
([03:37])
2. The sermon says, “Your past does not dictate your destiny.” How does the gospel give hope for families who feel stuck because of their history or past mistakes?
([06:18])
3. In practical terms, what does it look like for a family to “serve the Lord together” as Joshua describes? How might this look different in various family situations?
([34:08])
4. The sermon highlights support, time together, appreciation, and spiritual commitment as building blocks. Why are these particular elements so crucial for a strong family foundation?
([15:19])
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### Application Questions
1. Think about your own family—whatever it looks like. What is one area where you feel the “foundation” could be stronger? What is one step you could take this week to work on that?
([03:37])
2. The sermon challenges us to support each other, even when we disagree. Is there a family member you find it hard to support right now? What is one practical way you could show them love or encouragement this week?
([17:31])
3. Time together is described as the “currency of connection.” What is one simple, low-cost activity you could do with your family or household this week to build memories?
([26:26])
4. Expressing appreciation can change the atmosphere in a home. Who in your family or close circle could use a word of thanks or encouragement from you? How will you make sure to express it?
([30:38])
5. The sermon says, “As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” What are some specific ways your family could grow in serving God together? (For example: praying together, serving others, attending church, etc.)
([34:08])
6. The message reminds us that “no family, marriage, or church is flawless.” How can you let go of the pressure to be perfect and instead focus on growth? What would that look like for you?
([08:41])
7. If you feel like your past or your family’s past is holding you back, what is one truth from the gospel or from this sermon that you want to hold onto this week?
([06:18])
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Closing Prayer Suggestion:
Invite the group to pray for wisdom, grace, and strength to build families that stand strong through every storm, trusting God to help make what they have the best it can be.
([40:03])
Devotional
Day 1: Foundations That Endure Life’s Storms
Building a family on Christ-centered values and faith creates a resilient home that can withstand cultural pressures, spiritual challenges, and personal hardships. The foundation you choose is not merely about avoiding difficulties but about preparing your family to stand firm when storms inevitably come. Rooting your family in the teachings of Jesus provides a stable base that shapes how you respond to adversity and nurtures lasting strength. This foundation influences every relationship and decision within the household, determining whether it will endure or collapse under pressure. [03:37]
“Therefore everyone who hears these words of mine and does them will be like a wise man who built his house on the rock. And the rain fell, and the floods came, and the winds blew and beat on that house, but it did not fall, because it had been founded on the rock.” — Matthew 7:24-25 (ESV)
Reflection: What specific values or teachings of Christ can you intentionally build into your family’s daily life this week to strengthen your foundation against life’s challenges?
Day 2: Breaking Free from the Past to Embrace New Beginnings
Your family’s history, personality traits, and past experiences shape you but do not have the final say over your future. The gospel offers transformative power to break destructive cycles, heal old wounds, and create new legacies rooted in hope and grace. Embracing the present moment with intentional choices allows you to rewrite your family’s story regardless of what has come before. This means releasing the weight of past mistakes or dysfunction and trusting God’s ability to make all things new. Growth and renewal are possible today, not perfection. [06:18]
“Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Now it springs up; do you not perceive it? I am making a way in the wilderness and streams in the wasteland.” — Isaiah 43:18-19 (ESV)
Reflection: Identify one pattern or belief from your family’s past that you want to release. How can you take a practical step this week to embrace God’s new work in your family’s future?
Day 3: Active Support and Unwavering Commitment
Strong families are built on the daily, active choice to support one another through disagreements, challenges, and everyday life. This support is not passive or conditional but a commitment to show up emotionally and practically, prioritizing family above other demands. Loving each other unconditionally—even when it’s difficult—creates a safe environment where relationships can grow and thrive. This kind of commitment requires intentional effort and sacrifice but yields a family culture marked by trust, loyalty, and resilience. [15:19]
“Bear one another’s burdens, and so fulfill the law of Christ. Love one another with brotherly affection. Outdo one another in showing honor.” — Romans 12:10-13 (ESV)
Reflection: In what specific way can you demonstrate active support to a family member today, especially in a situation where you might normally withdraw or disagree?
Day 4: Presence Over Presents: Time as the True Family Currency
The most valuable gift you can give your family is your consistent, meaningful presence. It is not about grand or expensive gestures but about sharing everyday moments—meals, games, conversations, and celebrations—that build trust and security. These shared experiences create memories and a sense of belonging that outlast material possessions. Prioritizing time together fosters connection and emotional safety, making your family a refuge amid life’s uncertainties. Showing up regularly is a powerful way to communicate love and commitment. [26:26]
“Behold, children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of the womb a reward. Like arrows in the hand of a warrior are the children of one’s youth. Blessed is the man who fills his quiver with them!” — Psalm 127:3-5 (ESV)
Reflection: What is one simple, intentional way you can increase your quality time with your family this week, even if your schedule feels full?
Day 5: Leaving a Spiritual Legacy That Transcends Generations
The greatest inheritance you can leave your family is a legacy rooted in faith and devotion to God. Committing together to serve the Lord, modeling prayer, love, and spiritual discipline at home, creates an eternal impact far beyond material wealth or social status. This spiritual foundation influences not only your immediate family but also future generations, shaping their values and identity. Prioritizing God’s kingdom over worldly success ensures that your family’s story is one of hope, purpose, and lasting influence. [35:16]
“As for me and my house, we will serve the Lord.” — Joshua 24:15 (ESV)
Reflection: How can you initiate or deepen a spiritual practice in your home this week that will help build a lasting legacy of faith for your family?
Quotes
And what Jesus said really does still stand true today. What will determine whether or not you build a strong family or not is what you build your family on and what you build your family with. Amen? [00:03:37] (16 seconds)
And why the building blocks matter is because both of these homes faced the same circumstances, but they had totally different results when the storms were over. Same violent storms, same rains, same floodwaters, yet very different results. [00:04:07] (19 seconds)
Some people fall apart as soon as the wind blows, and other people, they just seem to get a little bit stronger and stand a little straighter when the wind blows. Some people lean into the resistance, and then other people get knocked over by the resistance. [00:05:08] (15 seconds)
So I want you to embrace this truth. Not only does my past shape me, but what I am doing in my present also creates what I am living in my present. Amen. Embrace the now. Everybody say now. Now matters. Today matters. Right? And a big part of what the house that you are living in and creating right now is what those building blocks are. What you build on and what you build with. The difference is not just the foundation. And I know some of you, you might have to have had some major foundation repairs in your life. Right? And that's okay. We understand that. Many people do. But also the construction materials that you are putting into your family right now. Not just the past. [00:06:41] (49 seconds)
He also mentions that it mattered on what that was built on. I will tell you, there are cultural rains. There are demonic winds. There are social pressure floods that will try to destroy your house if you let it sneak in and destroy your house. Be alert. Be awake to all the forces and the influences that can break up our families from the outside. And by the way, I want to take a little pressure off of you right now in this very first message of the series. Are you ready? Here it is. You are not trying to build a perfect family or a perfect marriage because they do not exist. Woo! Hallelujah! Right? Come on. They don't exist. [00:07:58] (44 seconds)
or they're projecting this false narrative to people around them, they are usually the ones that are in the worst shape of them all. Amen? Perfect families don't exist. Perfect kids don't exist. Perfect marriages don't exist. Perfect churches don't exist. Amen? Everybody dreams and hopes to have a great family, but that perfect marriage, that perfect scenario, it does not exist. So I want you to take heart. Your family does not have to be perfect to be a strong family. Come on. Your marriage does not have to be flawless in order to have a good, solid marriage. Your kids don't have to make straight A's in order to be smart. [00:08:44] (39 seconds)
But in order to do that, there's this dirty little four -letter word that comes into play. You've got to work at it. Amen? You've got to work to build a strong family. And guess what? No, it will not happen by accident. You are not. I'm just going to tell you right now, you're not going to lazy your way into a good marriage. [00:09:59] (21 seconds)
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