Building a Christ-Centered Family: Unity, Love, and Prayer

"I heard somebody say that he was walking by a construction site and he saw different people working at the construction and some people were taking some people were carrying logs some people were you know in India they have bricks to build with bricks of people are bringing bricks and things a lot of things are going on so curious come come join us curious passerby asked what are you doing were like wanted to find out what type of building because look like a big structure was coming up are you building a high-rise building or a house or what what are you doing so the first person said I'm just carrying some bricks then another person said oh I am the carpenter here and another person said like different people to give different answers and that's not what the man wanted to hear so finally he asked somebody and he said you know we are building a cathedral and that was his answer." [00:02:46]

"When God looks at what we are doing it's not that answer he like that person said building we are building a cathedral and I thought Lord that's a wonderful thing you're giving me to do not only am I bringing up my children for you which I am trying to do with your help but you're building a cathedral in my life you're building you know how a temple in my life I am going to be like your son Jesus Christ one day and that's the workers which are doing that may not be taken up with these small things of carrying bricks and I'm working all night I haven't had enough sleep help me not to be focused on that but let me think of my how you look at my life am I you're building a cathedral in my life and one day it will be finished." [00:04:02]

"One day God is going to reverse it and then he is going to show us and show the whole world this beautiful embroidery which you have done and it's going to be beautiful and he's going to do something good is going to come out even though we are struggling with our kids we will turn out okay we don't God's not looking at the small little disobedience they did here or a little light they said there or I mean definitely none of us it is perfect when God not going to show all the things those little many things but one day when they turn out okay like and it's going to be for his glory." [00:05:00]

"Another illustration which often come to my mind is one of our Tamil brothers in India was speaking at one time he said if you take a coin like we have rupees no one I take a coin like what is quarter or something and you put it so close to your eye and you shut a nine in circles you can even shut out the Sun you won't even see the Sun so some of the problems that we face or not or even material things like earning more money or how to save money for us maybe we don't have a job but we may think oh I must save money these material things we some we get it so close to that we can shut out the Sun sides and we get blinded." [00:06:43]

"I want to always be reminded of these two things that we are building a cathedral a temple of the Lord temple of the Lord and Christ nollette Christ likeness is going to come in our life not just a or how to change and has taken place in the sister she was so angry before now she is not so angry not those small things but one day Christ is going to be revealed in us and that that will be to his glory." [00:08:01]

"Oneness with the Father and the other was submission to the Father you know both those things I came to grasp it and appreciate it and be so good by that that God has helped me in my those two things have helped me in my daily life in my family life in bringing up my children in my relationship with my husband and go on to tell you what social you know if you there are scripture for that and I will just tell you some oneness with the father if you turn to Luke I'm in John chapter 17 there are many verses but while one of the verses which I can." [00:14:32]

"Jesus said well that's the high priestly prayer of Jesus he said not in speaking to the Father others that they are may be one that means we all and we can say I have been an a wife we can be one as thou father art in me and I envy that they also may be in us that the world may believe the doubt is in me I mean in so many things in that one verse but that they may be one as you father and I are one." [00:15:21]

"There's something about the unity of the father and the son which is so precious and so deep for us to understand but God wants us to have a revelation of a teaspoon of it and and that he wants us as husband and wife to have that you see I brought it down to our level not my husband and I we can have that unity which you and the father had so my mind cannot understand it but it is there and it's real let me think of all the disunity that there is in family you know small small things we differ about we feed like this my background I see it like in this way and my husband's background he's pertaining differently of course we are different he sees it in a different way he was brought up in a different way." [00:17:37]

"Unity with a husband is something we should guard let any amount of relatives especially actually if you people who are living here you don't realize how fortunate you are getting away from relatives but in India relative you know we physically come or they write to us and we are so much involved with our relatives that that can tend to break up a marriage relationship even if your relatives are far away or near but it's up to you to keep that community don't let that unity get fragmented at all and so it's a very high goal but it's possible this possible because every time a little thing comes up it's like a little cap that is coming there or a little thorn that has got in there you have to take it off say Lord I am sorry I was I was not focused on this keeping that unity of this between my husband am sorry I got distracted I'm sorry I am started blaming yes and that's the meaning of judging ourselves immediately sometimes we let it go we think like we Harbor on it hammer on this bad attitude and that like a axis growing that the sooner we'd get rid of it and treat it so that's what I I want to urge you as younger sisters and me which I worked on to keep preserve that unity and the world is so very training so fast that many things are happening to break up that unity and we have to preserve because when a good family and the United family is there that's good for the church you have fire five or ten United strong families in the church sector it is a strong Church the gates of Hell will not prevail against such church because it's United and the families are united husband and wife I United and that we have to do our best to preserve activity so I can say a lot about that unity or I mean it takes years it's not like oh today I'm going to do my keep United and tomorrow something may happen or you lose your focus and you sit like taken up with something maybe movie you've decided to watch and then find that all your energy we thought so we are to God that you do our best to keep the Trinity because it's our birthright and the dairy should not it that's one thing which I want to emphasize which I kept and notes many years we have been married my husband and I 46 years he is a very quiet person I am outgoing type of person and we've had relatives we've had this problems in some churches other churches we've had problems from people taking us to court my own family giving us so much trouble but I said Lord whatever happens that unity should not be God has helped us and helped me to ease with these small things no this is the devil coming in with like a wedge he come in with a small point but it's a wedge is going to get wider and wider and it will open and something will happen to my family and you know you keep that relationship you find that the children sense then I had a mama United so United we can't separate them you know in some cases the children come and know they can get something done if they ask mommy first or if they are daddy first and then if they understand that dad and mom are united sometimes they may be may slip up and think ok daddy has given permission it's ok but if that has happened we should never disagree in front of our children say why did you say this and why why did you do this and because then they see Oh daddy mama got a dis a disagreement and the devil has come in and the children start misbehaving so even if we disagree I that's a rule which we followed we don't my husband and I don't agree 100% on everything he I defer disagree with him but I but I never disagree with him publicly in front of my children I never tell them tell him even if it concerns I mean away I have nothing to do with church matters that's completely he and the brothers elders in the church but family matters we disagree so I never tell them that I didn't want you to take this decision and I I want to do this so I wait for a chance when we are by ourselves and then when the children are asleep or something then and then by then I would have sort of settle down you should never bring up a conversation disagreement especially when we all heat it up because then there's more were you know a lot of dust has been stirred and and you cannot do much work so wait till we are settled down everything is calm and in a mature way not in a childish way in a material way you bring up the topic and you say like you know what happened about in the morning about this thing I really felt a little bad that you decided to do but I felt we should have done like this and this is fun so and so and the reasons why I felt it should be and then you said no no I felt that this is the way we are going to do so we leave it at that but sometimes you say yeah that's true maybe we could do it a little differently and you won your point but if you were to argue why did you do why they did I did this you did it nothing happens but you say it in a mature way and you and both of you have time to think about it you may you may change the wife may change the husband message or you may have come to in a different way of doing things a third alternative which is of bed may be the best so keeping that's all connected with keeping the unity in the home and you can think of a thousand and one things which come up in the home where you and to be disunited but deep down you should take lord help me to keep the unity help it then when the children grew up in that one you find that it's easier to bring up the children you don't know how to handle their disobedience because they it's easier for them to be when they see everything is harmonious in this home so as better setting down and I do what I should be doing I found that many times but when when there's unrest the children can sense mommy is little disturbed and then they want attention and they play up and they make it more difficult for us so that's one big big thing which I'm wanted to remind you and remind myself keep the unity of the spirit and it's in every level newly married you're beginning to know each other you have to keep the unity start with the unity when you have children at my stage I find my children are grown up my children are married when I go to visit their home I should not go there to disrupt the unity of their family like oh they are not I'm here to see that this was done better than I don't even need to correct my dear children because they are the parents if I see something wrong and if they give me the liberty and say no no don't do that I checked with the my children and and their wives is it okay if I do this if they are not happy with it and they don't want me to correct and I should not correct it refer it to them they are the the parents of those children Otto final authority I am not so even at my level I have to work hard to keep that unity unity in my children's lives in my church family like so that's a big thing I don't want to go on and on because time is a second principle which I felt is very very important and which we guide us in all the little little things is submission now people don't like to hear the word submission because we think submission means I should just give in and I should give up my own will and just do what somebody else wants it's not like that I look at submission as what what Jesus did and if Jesus could do that and he asked us to do then he'll give us the grace to do it and he he loved the father so much so she did it out of love for the father and there are few verses in that many many verses but we won't have time to read all but if we just some time any have time we we big prepend also look at Philippians chapter 2 the first few verses this is about Jesus how he existed what God is God and existed in the form of God he did not regard in verse 6 he did not regard equality with hot as a thing to be cut like a didn't hold on to that oh I am equal with God here I was telling about oneness with a husband I am equal with my husband I am one with my husband but Jesus did not hold on to that equality with God as a thing that he or he's going to keep it is a damn willing to give up that and I'm going to go down and not just come one level below God and like I even become an angel okay I'll be like head of the Angels no he came down as a man and not only as a man he came as a bondservant that means the lowest of mankind if you think in India we have people who only think of some slave who doesn't have in those days where they had slaves who don't have any rights they cannot question if they are stopped they cannot say oh I'm hungry or they have no rights no laws nothing and Jesus he was not that the father made him like that he chose to become like that he chose to become the lowest and lower than all of us so I think Lord if you chose to become like that for my six so that I could be saved for my sin I want to choose to come down from my high level I am NOT going to say oh I'm not going to be a 16th century Indian wife who always listens to us when done no question about it I want to choose to come down for you to come down from God and below me such a big drop and for me it's just a little few inches I come down and submit to my husband under husband's are tyrants God have you no good husbands who care for us and understand us and we can talk with them if if it was a husband who's drinking and abusing us and doing all the wrong things then even then one of God says by your humble and you're quiet behavior you can win your husband you we can't ask God to do that but first who God has given us good husband to submit it should mean and should be the happiest and easiest thing so I look at it like that God you did it you're my example Lord Jesus and when you come in Jesus came as a man and lived as a man and he is our example he's our example these are example in submission and I'm going to submit not like Oh have to submit it's a hard thing for me to submit why do I have I can't I somebody why can't he do something if I can't he give up or no God's Word says we have to submit and because God's Word says that and because Jesus did that I am NOT going to question I am going to do that time submission it doesn't become like a painful or a hard thing though only wipes mythic oh you poor Christians you have to submit your husband's how can you do that why should you do that aren't you and you speak up no it's not at all like that is the happiest thing we can do and the most there's no other thing that and you are greater joy then living the life with Jesus wants us to live I took it submission like that then if people come in after I say you I'm general argue or convince you by my word you live it and you see the joy that there is in living such a life and so that came more and more I said not if you want me to submit me and you want me to submit don't let it be like a painful as if I'm dying on the cross make it like how you felt it was a joy for you to and Jesus said my father and I are one and he's it I always do the things the father wants me to do I do nothing of my own in John chapter six seven and not you read those verses you see how Jesus loved his father so much that he delighted to do the Father's will and not let it be like that if your values that I should submit give me the joy and I don't want to put on a long face and miserable way of submitting to you are going to me joy that's my birthright we've made the joy of submission and it became true in my life I can tell you it and more and more true the only sorrow I have miserable times I had was when I did not submit when I do refuse to obey God then go against end and do my own will then I used to feel like guilty and I still feel like why did I do that was not worth it going against God and that you know with a guilt of sin and having to come back to the Lord otherwise if every single time I chose to well now sometimes you may think my husband doesn't understand me why should I submit see we are not to be God has given us a mouth and God has given us freedom to speak we can speak in a loving way to has been and said look I don't feel like doing this thing with you I should do and maybe he can help us or maybe we may not be needed to require to do that whatever that small thing which he wants us to do is say okay it's not important so everything I keep those two principles oneness with a husband and submission submission not like in the bad way how the world looks at it but submission how the Lord wants us to submit how Jesus submitted and make that a pattern then now it's like the summary of our wife should be there are no rules that you should do this you should do this you should dress like that you know I was I had an experience when I was 14 years old I almost died of food poisoning and that's when I gave my life to the Lord and I decided yes follow the Lord after that anything any temptation comes the Lord I said Lord bring that incident back to my life how I would have died if I am tempted to be little you know worldly or want some only thing or and all the vanities which girls can have when I was a student in technology I should not bring back to this fire died I almost died I was in coma if I had died and I have been agree I've been in the crib there and what's the use of dressing up that skeleton with all these grand clothes or with this thing or with that thing or this particular that will mean nothing to that skeleton but because of your grace I am NOT a skeleton ma'am and still alive I'm going to live only for you so ask a lot to bring something to your mind some thing would have been impossible maybe you may not have got a visa to come here and your husband would have been here and you would have been in India or anything as well not bring something to my mind I could have died and my children would not have had a mother or any thing like that to not bring that to my mind often so that I'll be thankful to you I won't have any complaint on this is not right that's not right not this impossible situation you did for me I am going to ever more be thankful to you I am going to look at the rest of my life I'm going to live for you because you did that and the Lord will bring for me it was that incident where I almost died for you it may be some tears but God so good you bring that to my mind to your mind so those are the two things which I want to spend so much time on then lot of you have questions about bringing up children see there's no rule about bringing up I I used to ask different people how you did it how is it but then I thought I could never pattern my bringing up my children the way somebody else did but I got some help I must say I didn't reject everything I got help but I adapted some things too I got some benefit from them and I adapted them into my situation like the way you bring up girls is different from the way we bring up poison no and so as I said earlier some boys and some children respond to one way or another but one thing I found if you try to be like harsh with your children and speak harshly or before that if you have the habit of speaking in a rough way with your husband that will be your tone of voice it always say why did you do that why did wire you need and I was look at the time you're late now then that Amir way of talking and you'll stop like that to the children and the children will learn that way of talking but if you cultivate the way of you know asked the Lord Lord teach me you said your word is refined seven times let me refine my word seven times or any number of times let me speak in a better way this time in a better way a better way then the children learned that so that's something we have to take yours but we have to work on it begin with working with our husband we're talking with her husband in a nice H and when we attempt in and if we have slipped up and said something in a harsh way all of us are human we make mistakes if you have slipped up sometime investors immediately say I'm sorry but sometimes it's not so easy to say sorry but sometimes say you know how my tongue is like that sore up because I'm sorry that I spoke like that if we even if we apologize sometime and the next time it will be easier we won't speak correctly but if we don't apologize we continue speaking liner because the last time within the process the next time Italy was men worse and then it be a big fight so my suggestion is if you slip up once sometime during the day come down from your pride a little bit and say I'm sorry I spoke like that and sometimes make it like a joke you know my tongue is little rough but I need to work and I'm sorry expect like that then it's like yeah husband will service you okay you have to kneel down and say or Never they don't say like that yes it's okay it's not a big thing and they'll always say like that you'll never make us feel bad I didn't even think that you spoke like that they say like that so we if we work on the way we speak with our husbands and we speak kindly with that but if we shall always have the habit of speaking with our children in a scolding way scolding way then that will be our normal and natural run we leave home thinking or mommy is a cranky person she always seems to speak in Turkish in this way Jonas titin does she do this do that okay doesn't matter up till now we may have done like that but we can make a beginning and say Lord and so many years have spoken but at least now let me change and speak and coralie help us to change little by little one time we may speak or 10 times we may speak in a hash way but one time he railed us to speak but another thing about bringing up children we should be consistent now suppose we say that okay I we don't want the child to play with those blinds and then none of us want our children to play with them but then we play a little bit and you they are watching and they see that you not done anything about it the next time they do it little harder and a little more of and best time to handle that is when they do it the first time I found when they do it the first time I tell them look don't do it don't play the blind because it'll break and it's not our property we play and another thing she said don't but I found that you must give something if they can do it again now you do don't do that but you can do this instead if you give some other alternative then the mind is focused on that and they forget to focus but I find that a lot of times we let them play and then become worse and two three children join and they play and then it was so and then we shout a don't do that that was if we have done like that my advice has changed that method when you see them beginning to do something and you know okay this is just the beginning now right now it's it's not too bad but if I continue is going to be or is going to fall down or something if you see in the beginning itself you take them out of that situation and give some other oximeter that's a tip which I want with you otherwise you always think don't don't don't and they don't share anything which you can do you do this patootie I am sure all of you are doing that one just a reminder I found that I used to add to then in teaching our children one of the most important things we have to them to do is to obey this is in God's Word says children obey apparent the site that was children obey opens what we don't teach them obedience and the one way we can teach them is by our life if we all be no suppose we tell the children now don't watch TV I want you to watch TV and then they see in the nap time they come up and they see the tria watching anything Oh mommy's telling us not to watch but she's watching then they think obedience is not important so by our life we must say if it means input is useful if it's that important or mean then it's important for mommy also in it I find that then they take that seriously so if we that's just one example you can put it in your life anything which you want to first of all T some God's Word and teach them obedience by our own life may obey if we think like may say om I mean there's so many things when daddy's away and then I can also do then by our life itself we are destroying our children that those are some example another thing we have to teach our children is truthfulness in like lot of Indian mums they tell lies then the children know mum is not telling the truth it's going to speak to somebody they tell a lie and it no yeah it's not the truth but mummy I said that if mummy can tell a lie then it's okay for me to tell a lie so we should teach the children by our life the importance of truthfulness yes so yes and no no if we if you have it then we find the children respond have you done that immediately they say yeah I did that it's okay if you do that this time I let you know but next time if you do that you have to now I have a time out or you depending on the seriousness of the thing so give them one chance like especially if you are if they have happened to disappear say okay next time and an act an issue then another thing you have to teach them visual I'm sure all are doing is to tidiness so if we are tidy and we keep our home study only then the children will learn tidiness so they have played with that toys and we make a habit of putting away the toys and you see that yeah after you're done with the toys you put it away then my children Ananda well you what if we and a habit of ki keeping our kitchen all untidy dishes not washed and we piled up piled up eating okay let me grow up inside of such a home and they learned that untidy miss from us that's something which I have to always work on because in India it's not so easy one small small things and I important so I tend to like put away this thing but I try my best like at night before I go to bed to keep everything tidy wash up clean up and all that so timing is important and not to be wasteful if I children grow up like they can waste things and oh it doesn't matter if this is lost or broken we'll get another one then they grow up wasteful but we teach them now no you should not waste it if you if you are not good eat all this food just eat just this much and if you finish that and give you some more sometimes before we is to think a pile the children's plate with lot of food and they have to eat it they can't they are not going to eat it and then we waste it and the children see it doesn't matter if it's wasted mommy thinks it's okay but I found that for my children I'd just put small helping and they finish it with okay you want some more I'll give some more so that they try as far as possible teach them not to be wasteful those are just some tips which I thought of and discipline in our life if we are in this discipline then our children learn to be disciplined like if we think like I am just going to sit around and waste lot of time and then the last minute I am going to be frantic like even getting ready for church life I found that I had to prepare the previous night their clothes and the food for the next day and I'm sure all of you are doing that I know Laura's doing that and keeping all that ready then it's easier for their next for the day sometimes we forget that these things have to be taken care of and we keep everything but the last one oh this oh I know this one the buttoning doesn't work and then this one the plan and is not correct and then we give searching and so if we are disciplined and orderly it makes it easier for having those are some practical things then we another thing we have to teach our children is to be unselfish a lot of times we think I children this is mine this is mine and all children that the mind mind that is like that thing but we can teach them to share their things with others if they eating some snack okay offer it to the person neutral child sitting would you like to have one I mean make sure the mom is okay because sometimes I'm children may be allergic to something so Rachel if that's okay then you teach the children tuition teach the children to be content with what they have so much so and so has this type of clothes I want that especially girls as they're growing up taken I want this I want that you know for us this is they can have it but for us this is we've got so many dresses when that's over when that's small for you then we get another one things like that then you're connecting children less and our time is running out but we think when you bring up when we talk about bringing up children the first thing that comes to our mind is a correcting say you know how do we correct our children as I said earlier if we do the positive thing like building them up spending time with them talking with them and then telling them stories from the story books and helping teaching them to put the things away are helping in the home and we are constructing then we don't have to do so much of Karachi direction but if we leave them alone then we find they're always getting in to trouble and they're doing wrong things so we have been spending time building them up and I'm sure all of you are doing that because there are so many so many helps which you have nowadays in the web and so many things with children can do you get things for them but I found that I couldn't afford when my children were very small I couldn't afford too many toys I have some of the toys which my children played with and they're small which I'm keeping from my grandchildren but in the early years I use to make my own like you know a container you put some thing in it as that rattles and the child can play with that for a long time and when you are done with that you can show it off and sometimes you find that and then they want that more than the more important expensive toys so you don't think of correcting the children as much as building them up when you build them up then the correction is less but if you just sort of ignore whatever they're doing then you have to keep on correcting oh what's he doing is in this thing or is he in ducting is he doing that or is she doing that then the correction gets less and less if we are building them up then another golden rule about correcting which we all have heard in the churches they should never correct our children in anger when we are angry and we spanked them then we may be spanking them 10 times harder than we should be this is a laden I know what my child did was wrong and she needed to be disciplined but let me never do in anger I have been guilty of that but mine was like you know I just had a small twig and it was not so bad but even then I saw that it was there was I anger and then I used to think like if there is a mark you know on your child's body then it's like it was too hard whatever the spanking or what so I have to keep that as a rule if afterwards if I thought there was a red line I think of maybe the spanking was to what but now you all know there are the methods like timeout you sit on that step for 10 minutes and you come back when you are happy for small things that's enough only for big things you need to use the wooden spoon if they deliberately rebellious or you say two or three times don't do that and they go ahead and they do that now if you have told them like you not to do that and it was like some days back their mind they may have forgotten it so you call them and then you say didn't mommy tell you last week that you shouldn't be doing that and maybe it is it because some other child was with them so you say no I want to remind you not to do that that's not and give them a chance and and then if they still do that then only you I used to give them the and for my children the yes punishment there was that they're not allowed to play cricket outside this exhausting a number of spanking but just let it play so then I found that okay I could work on that and as a children like growing older for me that punishments I don't know if you you would do that but my method of punishment as a children go and were able to write would I would give them like hundred times I will not scream right at the or ten times and the handwriting would improve I will not scream I will not creeper and such like the punishment and then you know what you've written so those are some of the things which I have to give now of course your children my question your mom why are you making us write it again it makes no sense children are smart these days but my days I could get get away with that and then and also be consistent in like if you say like you're not to do that and then next time when they do that and you sort of ignore it then you will not be inconsistent when they make keep on doing it and then you find that you become too late so be concerned if you think that they should not do some particular thing and they're doing it you call them and you say I don't want you to do that but sometimes you know we we tend to go by a rulebook and sometimes we have to sort of let go and make some compromise and say it's okay this time I let you go like when my husband knows away I think this with the last illustration because time is up when my husband was away I'd find like he he'd be away maybe three weeks or five weeks and all of them I'd have different things which I had had to deal with and I didn't want to be like swatting them for every lady thing so I had a little book I had a book with and I would write down so and so did this and I put the date he did this and so-and-so did that trans or do that and and then okay daddy will happen I didn't want my husband to come back after five weeks like a policeman and deal with why did you do I thought I'd want them to think with dread about the dad return I wanted them to look forward daddy's coming back with chocolate and with gifts so I take on the minister and say okay you come let's see this thing on such-and-such a date you did this and I explained to them you did this and that was I knew because of this happening I'm sorry mommy okay I cut it out next one it is this most of the things I cut her but I make sure I makes it before he came on the - two or three days before he came up and say okay I'll cut out on this and then the next child I cut off everything would be cut off because they were not such big rebellious things like they were not doing big things but I went through that again so that it be in their mind that was serious enough but if it was something that I wanted my husband to know like when we're all sitting at mealtime I'll tell bring that topic and say somebody did I wouldn't say who did it but somebody say did like this or said like that oh how many did that and Daddy would know immediately that something has happened okay we should not and he'd give some and he would enforce it and that tells me a lot because they didn't look I mean I I wanted to maintain discipline but I didn't want to be like a school teacher or like a judge ten years in prison or $5,000 now I wanted them to think forgiveness is free because God has forgiveness at the same time is a serious thing what you have done and had to be dealt with and sometimes there was some consequence builder okay dad you see so whoever did that I want that person to come and see me oh let me talk about it but doesn't like a spanking or empty some consequence okay then for the next you cannot do this I won't allow you to do whatever you did you can should not do it for the next few weeks I only let you play or whatever he would deal with it so it was always with law and grace we should not be always law no then that children we think of mommy and daddy is always strict strict strict and did rebel against us building when we light in the home and I be on my own and I'll do what I like I want my children to come back home I think Oh home I love my home love and that's how I wanted it so they should be law discipline and grace and those are some of the things which God helped me and I can say it's only the Lord where shelters but another big secret I can tell you which is a must must must is both of you husband and wife must pray together must pray together sometimes we morning and evening and sometimes in between also and especially the children are having some problem with behavior say we should not think like oh I am NOT I can handle it or my husband is not in endeavor will bring a thousand and one flaws in your husband see Oh your husband doesn't care for you but don't just ignore all that and say let's pray our son is going through this problems son is having this aura Tata's having this problem all she stammering or whatever big or small whatever the problem is it much it's important for God God can handle it so as we heard today from all the testimonies pray with your husband and that will bring the unity because you have some problem and you think I not in your spirit United with the husband then that prayer won't be hurt so you be united and know now not a one D should have go in our life and we are not on talking terms with a husband or in a bad market I mean if that temptation may come by no families are put put days they will not talk to each other but we should not even in a few minutes I mean little unrest and I calm myself not I want to tell with it you can tell him I'm a little disturbed now just leave me alone for a few minutes and I'll be okay in a little while we intend okay then my husband knows and with the Lord's help get over it but anytime there's this unity or disharmony the devil is going to sneak in and the persons are going to suffer our children so thing you know at least for the sake of my children I am NOT going to have this disunity comment by." [00:30:07]

"Pray with your husband and that will bring the unity because you have some problem and you think I not in your spirit United with the husband then that prayer won't be hurt so you be united and know now not a one D should have go in our life and we are not on talking terms with a husband or in a bad market I mean if that temptation may come by no families are put put days they will not talk to each other but we should not even in a few minutes I mean little unrest and I calm myself not I want to tell with it you can tell him I'm a little disturbed now just leave me alone for a few minutes and I'll be okay in a little while we intend okay then my husband knows and with the Lord's help get over it but anytime there's this unity or disharmony the devil is going to sneak in and the persons are going to suffer our children so thing you know at least for the sake of my children I am NOT going to have this disunity comment by." [00:58:02]