Boundaries: Care Not Carry, Faith Not Fear

If you are walking around feeling like, I blew it. I don't have value. I messed up again. There is no condemnation. Don't condemn what God's not condemning. Right. Don't beat yourself up. Don't let other people beat you up. Get rid of it as quickly as you can because he doesn't want you living that way. There's no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus. Because you belong to him, the power of the life giving spirit has freed you from the power of sin that leads to death. [00:21:30] (38 seconds)  #NoCondemnation

Well, that's what Jesus did for us. So all the problems that are going on in the world, all the things that we face, God has covered it. We don't need to worry anymore. We don't need to be perfect anymore. We can simply accept a good boundary would be stop trying to do what God has done for you. Try stop trying to be good enough for God. You'll never make it. God already said, I've taken care of it. I accept you for who you are. I love you for who you are. [00:25:08] (32 seconds)  #GraceIsEnough

Their lives may be coming apart, and we may care deeply for them and not want their lives to come apart. But we can't involve ourselves more in their lives than they want us to. We can't care more about their problems than they care about their own. If somebody is has a victim mentality, if somebody believes that all the problems that they're experiencing are everybody else, there's not a lot you can do to fix that problem because you have to change the world in order for them to be okay and right. [00:09:57] (33 seconds)  #RespectTheirAutonomy

But if you look at the two words, you will realize that the first word burden is a very heavy weight, something that's catastrophic that happens, and those things happen in our lives. But the second word burden is kind of the everyday things or sometimes the problems that we create for ourselves. And so there's a difference between the kinds of burdens we help people with. And so we wanna be sure that in our desire, maybe to to live the good Christian life or be a good neighbor or be a good parent or whatever it is, we wanna be sure that we're carrying, but, no, we're not carrying somebody else's burden that they're supposed to be carrying themselves. [00:05:55] (37 seconds)  #NotMyBurden

Boundaries are good for us. They enable us to understand what we should be doing for somebody else and really what we shouldn't, what we don't own. And then if we understand what God's done for us, it's so much easier than to genuinely give love to somebody else with no strings attached. And I know a lot of you have probably struggled feeling just so frustrated with other people and the mess they're making in your life. You don't have to carry that anymore. You can care for them. You can help them, and you can have good boundaries and love them the way God loves them, unconditionally. [00:26:14] (38 seconds)  #BoundariesEnableLove

And they will have to come to the point at some point, they'll have to come to the point and realize, I made this mess. And when that happens, sometimes that's the most caring thing you can do for somebody is allow them to experience the consequences of their own actions, and all of a sudden, that becomes the teacher that motivates them to wanna change. I don't want this anymore. I want a different life. [00:10:31] (24 seconds)  #LetConsequencesTeach

We have a tendency to get right back into doing something for somebody for some sort of an expectation. We do something for our kids. We do something for our parents. We do something for our friends. We do something for our teacher, whatever it is, and we expect something in return. And we've gotta get out of that mindset because that's not God at all. That's not how God operates. That's not his economy. [00:18:57] (21 seconds)  #GiveWithoutExpectations

You see, when we worry, we begin to take actions that are not in our best interest and sometimes not in the best interest of other people. You've gotta start with a foundation of understanding God deeply cares about you. He cares way more than the birds who are fed. He cares. He wants to take care of your needs, and he wants to take care of other people's needs as well. It doesn't escape him that they're having problems. [00:14:46] (29 seconds)  #GodCaresDeeply