Balanced Discipline: Nurturing Children with Love and Understanding

The Apostle here is giving one of the Practical applications of the general injunction which he had given away back in the 18th verse of the fifth chapter where he says be not drunk with wine wherein is excess but be filled with the spirit and then he's been working out that how that shows itself in the life of the church. [00:57:35]

The scriptures are never unfair that is one of their great and Central glories and here the Apostle reminds the fathers the parents that they must not provoke their children to wrath but they must rather bring them up in the nurture and the admonition of the Lord. [02:10:43]

The teaching of the Bible everywhere is that we are all to be kept under law until we come under grace and that Grace is not Lawless but the great principle is under law until you come under grace Old Testament until you come to the new that is the teaching of the Old Testament and the New Testament. [04:37:16]

The purpose of law is to keep sin with un bounds it doesn't convert it doesn't change it's not meant to it's not even meant to reform it is meant to strain and it does so by punishing so the essence of the whole principle of law is that your law should have sanctions and that your sanctions should be put into practice. [05:20:23]

We must not fall into the error of swinging again violently from the present position back to that other extreme which was in a sense equally wrong and here if we but follow the scripture we are given this balanced view on the one hand we are told the discipline is essential must be enforced. [07:01:80]

Provoke not your children to rough which you can translate like this if you right don't exasperate your children don't irritate your children don't provoke your children to become resentful now there's a very real danger of our doing that in exercising discipline and of course if we do that we've done much more harm than good. [10:23:60]

We are incapable of exercising discipline truly unless we are first able to exercise self-control and control of our own tempers now that of course as I'm saying is the trouble with a man who is guilty of being drunk with wine he can't control himself he's being controlled by his instincts and passions. [14:33:24]

If a parent is to exercise this discipline in the right way the parent must never be capricious there is nothing that is more irritating to the one who's undergoing discipline than that the person who's administering it should be capricious and uncertain there is nothing more annoying to a child than the kind of parent whom you can never predict. [17:00:84]

The parent must never be unreasonable and unreasoning I suppose there's nothing that so Anno is the one who is being disciplined more than that that he or she has got the sense that the whole thing is utterly unreasonable in other words it's the sort of parent who will not even take any circumstances into consideration. [19:51:92]

We must never fail to recognize growth and development in the child here's another terrible thing thank God one doesn't see it as often as one used to see it but you know there are some parents who've gone regarding their children all their lives as if they were just aged about five though they may be 25. [32:39:92]

Discipline must always be exercised in love and if it is not exercised in Love Don't attempt it at all you can't can't do it you need to deal with yourself first the Apostle has already told us to speak the truth in love all right it's the same thing here speaking the truth yes but in love exactly the same with discipline. [38:57:60]

If you and I are filled with the spirit the effect of our disciplining our children will be that they love us and they respect us and a day will come when they'll thank us for having done it they will know even when they want to defend themselves there will be something within them that tells them that we are right. [41:18:44]