Asking for a Friend (12:30 pm)

We are not are never doing enough for Jesus. Yeah. You've you've never done enough for Jesus, but that's not the goal. Like, the the goal is not to do enough for Jesus. At least not my goal. My goal is to do everything for Jesus. Come on, man. I don't know where enough is. That's that's a line. I I couldn't even picture. I mean, he saved me. He died for me. I've I have eternal life because of him. I've got freedom because of him. Like, enough. [01:51:45] (32 seconds)  #EverythingForJesus

why wouldn't I trust him with his timing? And I think I've got, the experience to to even back that up where I've had some moments where I was questioning God's timing in the moment, but being able to look back, you know, hindsight's twenty twenty. Right? So, like, looking back on it, it's like, man, thank god he didn't listen to me. Because if he listened to me, would've messed it all up. Right? And I've had enough of those moments in my life that now I can just be like, alright. [01:57:43] (49 seconds)  #TrustGodsTiming

Well, we'll take the husband one first. How do I how do I submit to my husband? You honor and respect him. That's what scripture says to to do. Husbands, you are to love your wife as Christ loved the church. And what did he do for the church? He for the church. He gave up his life. And so husbands, you the only thing you need to be worried about husbands is you need to lay down your life for your wife every day. Whatever that means, whatever that looks like, but every day, you're you're laying down your life. [01:53:26] (38 seconds)  #LeadLikeChrist

I I think that that we can, be led by the Holy Spirit. And so if you're if you're questioning, hey. You know, this doesn't go against scripture, but I just don't know if this is me or this is God. Spend some time in prayer over over that thing. And then the last thing that I I usually tell you is, find some people you can talk to, about it, which I recognize that's kind of what you were trying to do here. But I mean, like, specific like, the specific question, the specific thing. Take it to some people that you trust that are following God, that you know that they hear from God as well. Take it to your small group. Take it to one of your pastors just so that you can get kind of that that that wisdom from a multitude of counselors. [01:06:06] (39 seconds)  #PrayAndSeekCounsel

Future, I want to travel the world, and you want to live in Matson for the rest of your life. Like, there's some future goals that aren't really compatible. Some other issues with that too. Really? Aw. Come on, man. What you got against Matson? Anyways Like, you know, I'm I'm wanting to marry somebody who's gonna be a stay at home mom, and I'm marrying somebody that wants to be a career woman. Like, that's that's a future goal issue. And then the last one, I put it last because it's the least of the priorities for me, but it's still important. And that is just straight up fun. [01:28:17] (38 seconds)  #AlignYourFuture

Yeah. That's that's a a heavy question, but I it's also a question I love hearing because I think there's there's a lot of people that in your shoes would just move on. They would just say, oh, I blew it. You know? It's not it's not worth the effort to to fix it. But the fact that you're asking that question to me shows that that you actually want to fix things. And so I think that that's a beautiful place to be. I think that what this is gonna require is a lot of intentionality, a lot of work. And so you have to look at in what way did you break trust, and then you have to assure the other person that that's never gonna happen again. [01:07:52] (37 seconds)  #IntentionalRestoration

Is it sin? Maybe. I I think that there's there's elements of it that would absolutely, like, easily be categorized as sin. of biblically? Yeah. Yeah. I think I think people that are quick to say, gambling is a sin, I think that's a church tradition. You'd have to show me a verse in the Bible that just flat out says, and that's just not what I'm I'm I I can't think of any, which is why I'm saying maybe it's a little bit more nuanced. Is greed a sin? Absolutely. So that's where it's like, okay. [01:22:56] (38 seconds)  #SinVsTradition

And when you do that, you're making it easier for her to look at you and say, I honor you. There's I respect you. Right? If if you are demanding of your wife to submit to you, but you're not laying down your life for her, you got a faulty expectation. So so wives, what do you do? You you submit by honoring and respecting your husband. And husbands, you reciprocate that by laying down your life. So as the wife in the conversation, what would you add? [01:54:03] (62 seconds)  #MutualSacrificialLove