Shiloh Church Oakland

But you need to be grown enough, put up your big boy pants, your big girl pants and say, I'm not bringing that into this new house. Because in marriage, in the body of Christ, of Christ, these patterns, these things mix like oil and water. And there's some baggage we need to drop. And maybe you grew up in a home where yelling was normal. So when conflict comes, he raises his voice. Yet she grew up in a home where conflict meant danger, so she withdraws. So now he's yelling and she's running, and it's not that they're compatible. It that it there's something in them that is unhealed, some baggage they gotta let go of.